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  1. castle33

    She wants him to herself...

    I just got out of the ER. I have a heart condition and all of the stress caused me to crash. I'll update when I can. Thank you all for caring enough to read and share your opinions and experiences.
  2. castle33

    She wants him to herself...

    He keeps saying that he didn't lie to her. We have been talking for weeks now about if and how we want to work things out. I never told him, "I want to leave. I will sign the papers now. I'm gone." I didn't and he didn't. There was no official decision. He said he assumed that I was done...
  3. castle33

    She wants him to herself...

    BTW, I'm not actively seeking any type of romantic relationship outside of my husband. He knows this. I have been trying to work on my own personal issues with life and work. I just expected, and TOLD HIM that I needed to meet with her and set some things straight, not to control her...
  4. castle33

    She wants him to herself...

    She was not aware. She knows now, and she flipped out on him. It is also when she called me a sick freak. I completely understood her level of anger. She knew nothing of what really happened when Hamish was at home with me. I never wanted to read them. I trusted him and I guess that was the...
  5. castle33

    She wants him to herself...

    Yes! This is what is happening. Can you please go into my head and just type my thoughts for me? :eek:
  6. castle33

    She wants him to herself...

    He has admitted to that and we are working through it now. I told him I would give him time to figure out what he wants. I plan to do that. Hera has pretty much said that he needs to pick "me or her," and I completely understand where she is coming from. My main frustration comes from knowing...
  7. castle33

    She wants him to herself...

    First of all, you are coming off as super rude. Second, Hamish + me = inclusive. That was our deal. Hera did not know. He led her on. He lied to her. Hamish is not poly. I am. He is allowed to explore, but he has never done it before now. He fell for Hera, and did not want to tell her the...
  8. castle33

    She wants him to herself...

    I agree, and that is what I told him. He is worried about feeling the pain of heartbreak. I explained to him that it's going to happen no matter what in this situation. I know this is hard, and I will give him all the time he needs to work through it. I said that only he can decide for himself...
  9. castle33

    She wants him to herself...

    Some people don't want to know anything about their SO's partners. That works for them, not me. We came into our marriage knowing that we would all be involved. I need to be close with any man or woman my husband will care for. That is a dealbreaker for me and he knows this. This is the reason...
  10. castle33

    She wants him to herself...

    I am not trying to manage their relationship. Apologies if I was not clear. We were searching for someone that would be willing to have a close relationship with both Hamish and me. That is how it has been for years. I had no idea that Hera saw it as me and Hamish breaking up. Yes, we have been...
  11. castle33

    She wants him to herself...

    Is it selfish of me to want to fight for my husband? I'm the poly one in the relationship. I thought they were just taking their time getting used to the idea of something possibly working out. After learning that Hera wants nothing to do with me, I've realized that it was bad from the start. I...
  12. castle33

    She wants him to herself...

    ... And I am going to say NO! My husband Hamish has been seeing this new girl, Hera. They have fallen head over heels with each other. At first, I was super happy about him finding her. However, Hera wants nothing to do with me, not even to meet up just to go over some basics. I also found out...
  13. castle33

    Sex with your SO after they come home?

    I would be okay with it, depending on what was done on the date. I never go ass to mouth, so if my husband did, I'd like to give his parts some time to air out. :) My ex Erik and I dealt with this before. Years ago, I went to visit an old friend out west. He was my training Dom. We did have...
  14. castle33

    Fighting "metamours," DnD argument

    Thanks again for the replies. The guys are fine now. I was concerned because this was the first time they did not see eye-to-eye on something. I also think that it was caused by their underlying jealousy, mainly my husband's. When it comes to gaming, I tend to feel more comfortable with Knight...
  15. castle33

    Why and how did you get into poly?

    the first time I actually sat and read about multiple partners was when I was in 9th or 10th grade. my older cousin would let me read all her books. I found The Seasons of Beento Blackbird. link:http://books.google.de/books/about/The_Seasons_of_Beento_Blackbird.html?id=NopmQgAACAAJ&redir_esc=y
  16. castle33

    Fighting "metamours," DnD argument

    Okay. I was being a snippy butt in my last post. Sorry.
  17. castle33

    Fighting "metamours," DnD argument

    Okay, everyone. THE FIGHTING IS OVER! It was over the next morning. I mentioned that. If I didn't, then sue me. Yes, this is a real post. Yes, gaming is a big deal to me. It was said above that this fight is not my business. Hell yes, it is. It's my house, my husband, my friend, and they...
  18. castle33

    Fighting "metamours," DnD argument

    Thank you, guys, for the few non-judgmental replies. I understand that it is just a game. I also know that it does have more to do with my feelings than the rules of D&D. There was no screaming or actual fighting, just uncomfortable silence while rules were tested, followed by two men puffing...
  19. castle33

    Fighting "metamours," DnD argument

    @Annabel, I would feel awesome. I'm not one of those folks that get all worked up about sexism. I get your point and I do understand that most people may feel the same as you, but if the situation were in reverse, I would have gladly fought it out over Jell-O and mud. I would have filmed it and...
  20. castle33

    Fighting "metamours," DnD argument

    @BoringGuy, you get nothing. @everyone else, staying out of it was the best option. I do, however, have a hard time believing that when two men I both care for fight I am just supposed to act like nothing is wrong. this time it was just a gamer's fight, but what happens when it is a fight over...
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