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Jealousy is very common when you perceive someone else as a threat. This might be because they are a threat or it may be because of your own insecurities or some combination of the two. The threat can even be as simple as "new boyfriend will take time from my partner that I'd rather have for...

It's really hard to say, though I suspect Biker would have way more insight than anyone else. Other than two people, I have encountered nothing but support. Even txgirl's parents seem really happy that she's happy and really enjoy spending time with us. That being said, parents are the...

So, this is new territory and clearly more healthy. I'm posting when happy. To get something out of the way, I never closed the Susan story. I went up that December and planned on staying Thursday - Sunday. By Friday night I was so uncomfortable I rescheduled by flight to Saturday morning and...

Welcome to the forum. It sounds like you have a lot of things going on. I would recommend talking to a professional.

Is that a euphamism?

There are two different discussion here and putting them together is causing conflict. 1) if you have a condition that can be transmitted to another person and you don't disclose it when you come into contact with them, you are being a jerk. The degree of jerk is determined by intensity of the...

I tend to agree with you, but with some caveats. If you continue to have a relationship with her, it needs to have some very strict boundaries that continue to be re-enforced. If you suspect she doesn't really believe those boundaries, is putting up with them because she thinks they will...

Welcome to the forum. I disagree. I'd give a big ole slowdown on the whole thing. If you've just now connected and think a relationship is possible, take one or the other and cultivate it. Trying to build two long term romantic relationships at the same time seems foolhardy to me especially...

Galagirl's response is really good. I just wanted to add a hello and let you know there are spouses that understand like my Kay. Keep communicating and build up that trust.

Seems weird to find this in fireplace, but it's a good topic. I happened to go to a poly seminar at Dragoncon in 2016 and met with researcher. I asked her about the negative responses from children about poly. She said she hadn't had any except from the standard peer pressure problems... "what...

I have one too, though txgirl says it's a bit scary. I tended to post when my emotions were running high. If you have any questions that aren't in the early parts of it, please feel free to message me.

I'm sorry that happens. People suck :(

If you're into podcasts, Sex Nerd Sandra has an extensive library. It's varied, interesting, and often very funny. I also recommend Dan Savage's Lovecast.

I would be more comfortable with my partner dating a close friend as that allows more time for us to do things as a group. However, that's all theoretical. It has been very comfortable for Kay, Txgirl, and I to do things together and I'm sure that Kay counts Txgirl as one of her closest...

By waiting a few weeks you see who is interested in a relationship and not just a quick hookup. You can alter that as you see the level of attention and connection you have with them.

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Agreed. I am in a non-hierarchical poly V. Kat, I was in a monogamous marriage for over a decade with Kay prior to going poly. My wife is still monogamous and is happy with my extra relationships. It can be done. That being said, I know that one of the reasons it worked was I waited on a...

I was under the impression that it was code for sex. Gria, that is the curse of online dating sites. The good guys are hard to find because of the number of jerks, and women are hard to find because they are tired of sorting through the jerks. I know txgirl had pretty good luck when she was...

Welcome to the forum. I never found it hard to have more than one relationship, but I did find that may people were using them a bit as a transitory relationship. I didn't have a situation where we dated long enough for it to be an issue, but we went into it thinking that we'll enjoy each...

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