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Very wise. Very wise.

Arise from the dead old blog! So from where we last left our hero a few things have changed. Stakes turned out to be really jealous and we no longer talk. I found out I wasn't as much afraid of losing Susan as I was afraid of being alone. Kay is still awesome. On a related awesome note, I met...

Hello, there. I'd suggest loving that LDR boyfriend as much as possible since that's what he will do to you :) I'm glad you found this place there is lots of good information here and very supportive folks. It really helped me through a tough time.

Interesting. I went back and read over the blog and I clearly have insecurity issues when Susan gets a new interest. She doesn't do a good job of communicating during those times, but if I were to not make things harder, a lot of this would go away. That was a very informative exercise.

Thank you, Leetah and Atlantis. I need to read this blog back from the beginning. Stakes, Rose (another close friend), and Kay are very worried about me in this relationship. I feel stress, but I don't feel abused. They are not so sure. However, part of the issue with friends in a relationship...

Well, that solved that. I let her know I wished she had sent me a text and she melted down. Long story short, I asked "How am I supposed to share my feelings about something you have done that makes me upset?" She said, "Don't." That's clearly not going to work, and it's amazing (or sad) that...

So, it goes sideways, and I need help. Susan flew to meet NewGuy on Friday. At 3:30 Friday, her sister was freaking out because a reverse phone number lookup for NewGuy came back with a different name, and Susan asked for some investigative help. I didn't come up with anything irregular, but...

Things seem much better. I am feeling good in general, and I am not anxious about the weekend. I'm excited for her. It takes me a while to adjust to new guys, but in my defense, she's been super unclear about what this is going to mean for us. I've evaluated by actions, not words, and it's...

A week later and I'm doing a lot better. This weekend Susan will be visiting NewGuy. I have seen some signs that she's totally forcing the relationship. She mentioned that primary relationship are hard because her expectations are too high. I know there are things he does (or doesn't do, more...

Tentative lunch date fell through. I discussed with Kay about my three vacation days and we decided to take two of them for us, and offer one to Susan if she wanted me to fly out there. I figured that she would decline, but instead she accepted happily. I think this means my role is secret...

Happy birthday!

WarMan, we share a lot of similarities. When you get it all figured out, please let me know how to do it ;)

Susan's boundaries are crazy blurred, but I don't think it's without merit. When we started, she had a long-term boyfriend. We were both secondaries to each other. As time went on, I made her a higher and higher priority. I make life decisions based on her, but even then I have responsibilities...

My wife helped me pick out a halloween present for my ex? gf.

I wrote this today: The days are shorter, They grow colder, They grow dimmer, A breeze from the north. Green fades to gray, Not steady each day, But slowly, inexorably, The summer will fade. I feel it in my bones. I feel it in my head. I feel it in my soul. Nothing to feed my heart. The...

It's probably even worse than you think. On the plus side, everyone I have ever known who has lived in Layfayette has loved it. Not so much anywhere else in LA.

Good for you!

We just had our first fight since this started. I'm still trying to process it. It went just like this: Background - I've been laid up with food poisoning since Monday, so we haven't gotten to talk much. Susan - "I love you. I am sorry this is hard on you. Is there anything more I can do?" Me -...

Keep reminding yourself that it isn't a competition. She's with you because she wants to be with you, not because of some kind of Reality TV competition. Do the things she loves you for, not the ones you think she wants.

Good grief, Charlie Brown. I don't even know where to start. The trip was nice. I love spending time with Susan. There were lots of awkward moments too. She blamed feeling 'old' which depressed her. This meant a serious sexy-time deficit. She said after the fact, that she's feeling guilty and...