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Ar you open to poly people who are *not* couples? A large percentage of poly people are not "couple-centric," being solo poly, in Vs, Ws, Ns, or other configurations. The world tends to assume poly means a couple who seeks other lovers (usually to date together, but sometimes separately), but...

"Normal" is a loaded word, and I think largely meaningless. Feelings are feelings, and it's not surprising that you are attracted to those close to you who are supportive. It's worth taking a step back and looking at the "why" of those attractions before you pursue them, though. Others have made...

RUourcouple, by "we," do you mean each of you has had separate no-shows, or are you trying to date as a couple? People interested in dating a couple, especially bi-women (not sure if a HBB is your hope, but it's the most common one for couples), are few and far between to begin with. Since...

Along with all of the already-given excellent advice here: Your wife wants you to do the same things he does, and to "sweep her off her feet." Is she asking him to do the same things you do, like clean the house, pay bills, take care of the children, etc? I'm going to guess not. Dating is fun...

Since you seem unwilling to take any advice from posters here, or to do any self-work, but prefer to continue to act out and consider bringing others into your acting out, I hope you at least take the ethical route and inform potentials about your clustered-mess of a situation in a totally...

Thanks!! I didn't really need more added to my "to watch list," but there'll be rainy summer days where I'd rather not hike! :D

Could be. I haven't seen anything I'd deem threatening or dangerous come across, though I suppose I could have missed it. Really, if someone is posting things that are dangerous or threatening, then the appropriate response isn't to necessarily keep reading those things. It's to inform someone...

You are still willfully participating in the drama. Just stop. You're "not wanting her to win" isn't a healthy relationship dynamic. It's not a competition. She can't force your BF to do anything, it's his call. You do not need to hear how she reacts to his decisions or their conversations. It's...

I also don't get this idea of "disallow." Is this a thing? Even my nesting partner can't "disallow" me to do what I want to do. I have free agency, I can do whatever I like within the law. Of course we talk about it, and perhaps we find compromises for comfort (this has actually happened--I...

There is a whole show about pirates? HOW was I not aware of this!?

More than safety concerns, I'd see time as being the primary limiting factor. If your partner has other partners, they may also have their own "couples bucket list." Since most people have finite financial resources, limited vacation time, and possibly other limiting factors, poly can definitely...

IMHO, "rewards" for good behavior are for kids and dogs, not adults in a healthy relationship. Do things because they are right, because they are good. Do them out of compassion, concern, and love, and do them without expectation of reward, because, in a loving adult relationship, there is no...

I am so incredibly sorry for what you have been though, and continue to go through. The social stigma of rape is real, and the stigma of genital herpes moreso. It sucks that you have to deal with any of it, let alone all of it, and now this. As gently as I can, I think it's reasonable to say...

"And in his mind, if it pleases your partner, you should get enjoyment out of it as well because it makes them happy and feel good." Along with agreeing with GalaGirl and Sdguitarguy completely, this just doesn't logically work, because it doesn't apply in both directions. If action X makes...

It's totally possible, and can be a lot of fun. If all three people are into it. I am baffled that people would consider it not a "real" threesome. Of course, since many people don't consider blowjobs "real sex," I suppose I shouldn't be surprised.

Does he say he's shattered, that he doesn't know how he'll live without out but he'll try (for you!), that "It's totally okay for you not to do it, because I don't ever want you to do anything you don't want to do, but *I* would do it for *you*", thereby implying your a bad person for not doing...

So, you aren't attracted to women, but he wants you to have a FMF threesome? I am assuming that, in this threesome, he is expecting some girl-on-girl action to happen? Because, if he knows you're not into women and wants you to fuck one just because it's his fantasy....squick. Sexual experience...

I think you mean "V" rather than triad, since generally triad would imply that you are also involved romantically and sexually with him and I think it's fairly clearly that isn't a possibility.But, semantics aside... So, essentially, they still have the emotional ties, which are what a large...

I agree with NYCindie. This isn't about your parents, it's about you. People treat you as you allow them to, and you're allowing your parents to treat you like a child. Boundaries require enforcement. 1. Create your boundary. For example, "As a self-supporting adult, I do not wish to tell my...

Tri46guy, I agree that "disgust" is a strong word and emotion, and people can certainly feel disgust for the reasons you site. But, there are many other reasons people can and do feel disgust that aren't that they didn't get to do/experience whatever that thing is that disgusts them. For...