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This is a really common thing for men, and not at all unusual. My male partner definitely has an attraction to young(er) women for the same reasons--it's exhilarating and fun to show them new things, it's an ego boost to give them pleasures they've not experienced, etc. Also, it's an age where...

She feels like a sex toy, like she's being used, like she's a secondary citizen in your relationships because that is exactly what she is. The answer to how to make her stop feeling like a sex toy is to stop treating her as one. You and your wife make the rules, set the consequences, exist in...

It Has Begun! Man Applies For Marriage License To Marry Two Wives!

This is on the husband, and on the gf. Being out of gas isn't an unforeseeable emergency in 99% of cases--that's why they invented gas gauges. She's a big girl, she could have dealt with it on her own, given he was on a date with his wife for an important occasion. It's not like her mom died or...

I definitely understand the desire to just come out and say it all, right now, and get it over with. You're excited about the changes happening in you, and your life, and rightly so. You're thinking for yourself, you're finally being authentic to who you are and what you believe, feel, and need...

Morethan2, in addition to NYCindie's excellent suggestion, I wondered if you were looking for something relating to a specific issue? It sounds like, perhaps, you are struggling with something particular, and we might be of more help if we knew what, specifically, you needed help with. In...

I have Dagferi's same rules, and the addition of: -Be honest and communicative. -Be respectful of me, my time, and my privacy. -Do not allow other relationship drama to impact our time together. That pretty much it.

This drives me batty, and I often get told I am rude for how I deal with it. I get asked out by fellas pretty regularly (less often by women--I guess I don't give off the "bi/lesbian" vibe or something). When I am not interested (which is like 99.9% of the time), my answer is a very polite "no...

I am so sorry. *hugs*

*raises hand* Me. And, almost all of the bi women I know (mono--since all bi women are NOT poly--and poly alike), and especially those who have ever tried to date a couple seriously (as in, for more than a very casual thing). I do not date couples as a unit, period, and neither do the vast...

Right. Which means that if she develops feelings for him and you and she end up not working, she's screwed. Or, if she and he don't work, but she develops/still has feelings for you? Would you keep seeing her without him? I'm guessing no. So, again, how is this kind of emotional blackmail...

Dating as a unit, a "package deal," almost always fails, usually explosively and spectacularly. If you are unwilling (or, in this case, if your husband is unwilling) to date people individually as people, rather than trying to date as a unit, then your anxiety isn't unfounded or unwarranted, and...

I live in a fairly poly-friendly, large metro area. But there are still more men and couples than poly women (and yes, most of the couples are unicorn hunting...I won't even go into the crazy shit that goes on with that because it would derail the thread). So, there is an element of supply and...

Yep, it's common. I get the exact same thing with couples at meetups/poly events (I am out as bi, so clearly I want to date, or at least fuck, every couple). It's one of the many reasons I don't do meetups, etc. My current male partner is also bisexual (though not biamorous), and almost every...

Just a note: I am not married. So, not Mrs. :p Ms. works. Or, just GA.

Other, IMHO more appropriate, suggestion: tell him he needs to start looking after your child more, so you have some time to bathe, eat, sleep, and have a life. Him spending LESS time helping you raise a child and have time for yourself isn't going to help your marriage, or you, as a person. If...

It would depend on many things: 1. Are they receiving and complying with treatment, or have they had treatment and been discharged having learned coping mechanisms, etc.? If the answer to this question is "no," then it may be a deal-breaker for me. I don't judge people with mental illnesses...

Yeah...I'm going to go with that not being a reasonable solution here, or, frankly, in most cases. The OP gives no indication she is bi, or has any desire to be in a triad at all, and her husband wants to keep seeing his affair partner (and neither of them seem to be interested in a triad, etc...

Welcome to the forums! As always, GalaGirl has some wonderful advice. Does his wife "get" to date others (I am guessing the answer is no, but thought I'd check). I suggest doing a site search on "One penis policy," or OPP, and reading some of the previous posts on the topic. It's not...

Opalescent, your last post seems completely reasonable. Having time to "think out loud" sometimes helps me, too! And, though it was painful, possibly a good thing in the long run. You were able to discover your fears and needs in a more casual relationship, and, while painful, it helped you...