I don't want to be poly under these circumstances

This is on the husband, and on the gf. Being out of gas isn't an unforeseeable emergency in 99% of cases--that's why they invented gas gauges. She's a big girl, she could have dealt with it on her own, given he was on a date with his wife for an important occasion. It's not like her mom died or something. She wanted attention. The husband gave it, instead of saying "I am sorry this happened, but this is not a situation I will leave my celebration for. Call a cab, call a friend, or get Triple A, and keep better track of you gas gauge." He didn't. He *chose* to give her attention-seeking behavior priority.

If someone I was dating left for that, I'd be pissed, too. Been there, done that. Left the relationship.
 
graviton said:
I highly doubt he enjoys it. I don't doubt he loves both women and now he finds himself in the unenviable position of the two of them fighting over him and making him feel like he has to dump one of them and causing drama. Yes he causes some of the drama but I have a hard time believing this is fun for him.
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Well, you've never dated a narcissist. I did, for 2 1/2 years, and he admitted by his own words, and his obvious behaviors, that he found triangulating lovers amusing. I am not 100% sure this guy is a narcissist f course, but it is a distinct possibility. I do get the feeling he is enjoying the thrill of it all. It's just pinging all the buttons from my own painful experiences.

I don't think the women are fighting over him. I think he is staging all the drama. I doubt he is capable of "love" in a mature sense.
 
GreenAcres said:
This is on the husband, and on the gf. Being out of gas isn't an unforeseeable emergency in 99% of cases--that's why they invented gas gauges. She's a big girl, she could have dealt with it on her own, given he was on a date with his wife for an important occasion. It's not like her mom died or something. She wanted attention. The husband gave it, instead of saying "I am sorry this happened, but this is not a situation I will leave my celebration for. Call a cab, call a friend, or get Triple A, and keep better track of you gas gauge." He didn't. He *chose* to give her attention-seeking behavior priority.

If someone I was dating left for that, I'd be pissed, too. Been there, done that. Left the relationship.
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Why the hell didn't she call HER husband? Seems to me like she wanted to disrupt the evening. I bet she'll dump her husband because she sounds like a cowgirl to me
 
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