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Well... Life sucks then you die. Posting here (even though some probably consider me very neurotic and obsessive) has helped so much. I just got news from the doctor that 1. I am at risk for GD (gestational diabetes) and 2. I should still refrain from having sex with my husband for a while...

The hurry is that I'm being hormonal and pregnant :) No, seriously though, I know there is not that much of a hurry, except that I will need him close a lot more often once the baby is here, and in my humble opinion it would be easier if we could all hang out together. But if that doesn't...

I guess I understand where this disconnect comes from. I wasn't talking about sex. I was talking about simple things like just watching tv together, or going out for dinner. I do understand the weirdness around sex, even when I don't share those feelings. I don't understand the weirdness around...

Thanks. That is a good point and not one I had considered before.

Thanks. I appreciate honesty. One of the reasons why I sound obsessive here is because I feel like I can let it out here without bothering either of them. This post is not about "how can I get my way" but really because I want to understand. I can understand why a girlfriend might not be...

He, at least I'm aware of it, and I can work on being more in control of my need to be in control.... ;)

Today I had a great day. I didn't do much, I watched tv and played online a bit in the morning and easily afternoon, and went for a walk and then shopping in the afternoon. It is kinda sad how much buying things cheers me up! :p Anyway, it is good to have good days. And tonight he will be...

I'm learning new things each day... I a, planning to take a breastfeeding course next month, so it would have probably come up then as well, but it is good to know. The reason I also want to pump is to be able to go out at times to the movies and leave the baby with my mother in law, or if I...

(yes, I know I'm posting here a lot. Too much probably. sorry!!) Ok; My husband is a hinge (that's what you call it right?) in a V with me and a girlfriend. I have zero issue with seeing them together and hanging out together. From the short chat that I had with her, it seems that she...

Right now we are having a "wait and see" approach on this, since I have no idea on how my baby will be. In general I'm way better being up at night then in the morning, and I do get along well in general sleeping in bursts instead of the entire night. So maybe that will help...? Anyway, the...

I am more thinking about how often I want him to be at home (or with me), instead of telling how much he can see her. It doesn't matter to me if he is out with friends or with her, he is not with me. So I want at least 3 week nights, and one weekend day where I have him for myself. Most of the...

Thank you! One of the reasons that he wants to take her on a short holiday is exactly because the last few weeks of pregnancy and the first month or 2 of having the baby he will have less time for her. They are both aware of that and obviously ok with it. I don't necessarily feel competitive...

We talk a lot, my husband and I. He knows how I feel and keeps telling me that I want to go to fast, that I have to be patient. I'm not a patient person :) I also feel very insecure. Which I *know* are the hormones talking, because I am usually not like that. But I feel a lot less than her. I...

Hi guys, I've been reading and participating here and there, and I think it is time to start writing my story. Hopefully that will help me settle things in my mind and help me cope with my situation. Some background; when I met my husband I was in an open relationship with someone else. Sex...

Thank you. This posts helps a lot to make something clear to me. So far our relationship model has been to put the needs and wants of the other person ahead of our own. This worked for us, because we both did the same thing, so it balanced out very well for us. Adding a new person to the mix...

Personally, I'd keep quiet if my music disturbs other people, except for maybe once in a little while (with previous agreement) for a party or something :)

Just something that I was thinking about today. How do you know where your line is? When you go over it? When you don't take your own needs into consideration enough in order not to be selfish?

Seeing as she is a good friend in the eyes of most, can she not come in that capacity? Say something like, "She is such a good friend, she feels like family. She has helped our son with lots of school stuff, so of course she is here to celebrate with us!"

So it seems to me that it is not insecurity, nor jealousy, nor anything unreasonable. It is just that you have needs that are not being fulfilled at the moment, which is why other things hurt so much. Have you tried sitting down with them both and talking about what you need (more attention...

What are you feeling bad about exactly? That he doesn't seem to want to go with you, or that he wants to go with her? I meaning, if he suggested going on the weekend trip with you, but for some reason you were not able to, would you mind if he took her instead? If that is the case, it might be...