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It was terrific to see RedPepper, Mono and Derby all together at the kink party last night. What a cute family they are. (And they all looked hot in their costumes!) I had the pleasure of attending the same event with my two local sweeties. We actually spent more time cuddling than playing, and...

Haha! I think some of the "patients" would have loved that. ;)

You looked great last night! I'm sorry I didn't get to spend more time chatting with you and getting your impressions. (I didn't expect to be drafted to the nurse's station for half the night.) But I'm glad you enjoyed yourself, and it felt good to you to have friends there. :)

I have concluded, after many years of trying to figure out why I like the eclectic group of people I do, that I am attracted to hardcore individuality. Show me a person who has the courage and enthusiasm to be comfortable being fully themselves, and that's the person I'll be drawn to. In...

http://kikimuse.blogspot.com/2010/06/meta-moresomes.html Maybe not quite what you asked about, RP, but a start.. ?

Currently, I am blessed with fantastic metamours -- really, I couldn't ask for a more wonderful poly family. I tend to feel about my metamours the way I feel about siblings -- instead of sharing a parent, we share a lover. Like siblings, we know we need not do EVERYTHING together, but we do...

That's wonderful news, RP! Hugs to you and your loves! :)

What an interesting post topic! I've observed in different poly communities, over time, that a "polier-than-thou" attitude can often crop up and this attitude generally reflects the prevailing poly configurations of the majority of the group members. For example, in one city I have visited...

And it was a pleasure to meet both of you as well! :)

I've been thinking about all of you a lot in the last week, RP, and pondering the ups and downs and challenges of family life and relationship changes. It seems to me that all of you are exceptionally courageous in that you've chosen to meet more challenges head on than most. That's probably...

You can bet your boots I'll use it, Mono! ;)

Wow, I really like "monomour"! That is awesome! I have dated several couples and here are my feelings on how their relationship affects me. If the primary couple's relationship isn't going well, it always affects me negatively. I derive absolutely no benefit from difficulties they may have...

You are definitely a much-loved and respected part of our community, Mono! Yes, wasn't that a great discussion night? :)

I for one am grateful for firsthand feedback about potential partners.. that's the beauty of a poly community, after all. We get to check people out before we date them... and yes, I do pay attention to that! As for this situation, your intentions were good and the communication failed...

Yeah, it seems it's a very awkward way of breaking up without having to sit down and just break up. Sad for everyone involved. :(

My ex-husband (who I was still with when we "discovered" poly) just cheated on his (monogamous) girlfriend. He just texted me to tell me this; five minutes later, *she* called me in tears (she has no friends in town) and wanted to talk. I have a friend coming for dinner so I had to get her off...

I have always thought of myself as Bohemian. Very romantic (and it helps that my grandfather was Hungarian). ;)

jkelly: Not at all.. but I do recommend not entering any relationship with the intent to convert your partner to your way of thinking, be it mono or poly.

Just to play devil's advocate here, I'd like to mention that sometimes there are poly agendas, i.e., a poly person dates a mono person with the intention of "converting" them. In my observation (close-hand experience) this does not go over well for either person. Sometimes agendas are not...

I just wanted to put in my two cents and say that Mono and Redpepper's workshops (especially the one they put on together regarding mono-poly relationships) were excellent. They handled a touchy and complex subject with poise and wisdom!