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Also not married, but Real and I have been together for 10 years, and Lady and I talk alot about her dating struggles. For me, I would say most men on dating sites etc are there primarily for a little connection and a lot of sex, so it's much easier for women to get the initial date. More...

In the US they will now give vaccinations for hpv up to age 45. I would encourage everyone who can to get vaccinated. My OB/gyn recommended this for me as well as the vaccine has been shown in some studies to be helpful in "clearing" the virus (resulting in fewer abnormal changes in the...

Thanks for the info! I appreciate you sharing this so much.

We sort of alternate. New year's can be difficult. But other holidays it just depends on who plans what. For example, on Christmas this year I had family stuff on Christmas Eve as did real. They did their stuff Christmas eve/morning and real and I spent Xmas night together. At Valentine's...

First of all stop referring to a person as a "unicorn". It's inherently objectifying with negative connotation and implied power dynamics. Try language like partner or new person. Have lots of conversations about what your new world will look like and be aware that things are now different...

I also hate the "nipple armor" as real calls them. Annoying and useless pieces of modesty fabric.

In Texas. You can be common law fairly easily and it can be considered binding, but it's generally not looked at if you aren't doing things like claiming each other on taxes or insurance. We just present ourselves as life partners, whereas real and lady present as husband and wife. For us...

I'm in a vee relationship that has flirted with being a triad. However, this shape just ended up not fitting us. From reading your post, it seems to have some similarities. Lady and Real and I met and were quickly infatuated. However, after a few months, lady and I had passed the NRE point...

I usually name a time limit. And sometimes schedule a discussion time. For example, I'm dealing with a loss in my family currently so I asked for big discussions to occur after I've had a chance to determine whether my reactions are grief based or relationship based. Right now I need about 2-5...

I'm happy to talk offer my story, I just don't want to derail the thread taking about my stuff. I find thoughtful questions to be more helpful than random stories Unicorn Hunted please pm me if you would like to know more from another F2 that experience similar growing pains

Like with all holidays, we pick sometime to celebrate, but not necessarily on said day. For example real and I are going to a beer and cheese thing tomorrow. He and Lady have a fancy date planned next weekend. Calendar dates for holidays aren't that important. However for folks up thread who...

Is there a solution possible that falls somewhere on the spectrum between kitchen table and parallel? In reading this thread it feels like the discussion is falling into a binary trap and losing the ability to look at multiple solutions. What are all the possible acceptable outcomes? I...

I would be super pissed about the sharing. Real and Lady and fox andI have a relatively close network and we only share about big things with the understanding that we limit info to hey I could emo about my other relationship, please try to understand if preoccupied. I'm sorry you are...

I'm the unmarried leg in a FMF v. We are open rather than closed, but much of your situation is similar. I can relate to your description of Abby's feelings. Dating and spending lots of time with an established couple can be difficult. There are lots of times the simple affections and...

It really is the most fun board game I've played in a while.

Congrats reverie. I love your vows!

I think it's an individual basis call. Real and I have been together for 4.5 years with no signs of any big shifts ahead. Playful

I don't know if this is helpful but I know real gets jealous when I have a new partner. He worried I'll leave him for a live in unattached partner. Perhaps your partner needs assurance about their place in the constellation you are in changes. Would Check in time about new partners be helpful...

Hi there. I'm a Gf to a married man. We all had struggles at first. It's hard. What level of disclosure are you needing? Can you communicate this to your spouse and his new partner. Different people are ok with different levels of disclosure. Real and I had to discuss how much I was ok...

This may not be helpful but as the gf I want to share how special it was for me to have real with me on nye. Usually the 3 of us would have spent it together, but I couldn't this year due to family stuff. It is helpful for you to frame this as a gift to others happiness? Holidays can be very...