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Good morning all, My partner is poly, I'm non-monogamous. We live together. She is open to having serious relationships with others and has fallen in love with others a few times since we've been together. I'm interested in having friends with benefits without falling in love, and I've had a...

You say you do trust her, but I think you don't completely trust her and you don't like the fact that she identifies as poly. Whether you're in a closed or open relationship, there WILL be people who approach your partner. That's just life. It will happen. Some of them will be honourable, some...

I read somewhere that the end of a shorter relationship can actually be more painful than a long one because you're still in the NRE stage so the feelings are more intense. I wonder, also, if an online relationship can generate more fantasies about what it could be like in person than with...

I've been told I move on fairly fast (compared to people I know, at least), but heartbreak is heartbreak, mono or not. When I stopped being monogamous, however, I stopped believing in "the one", so I no longer see love through "Hollywood romance" glasses. I'd hate to see my primary relationship...

While you can never predict if feelings will arise with new lovers, I think it's perfectly reasonable to set your boundaries in terms of how much you're prepared to give and what your real-life limits are - existing commitment, time, energy, etc. I'm partnered and I do not want another partner...

Hi there. It takes a lot of courage to make that kind of decision and pursue your own happiness. Good for you and best of luck!

My partner and I both have confidantes - a couple of close friends each, which we do not share - that we talk to about "messier" stuff, for example my desire to have unprotected sex with someone else (that I mentioned earlier on this forum). And of course, we can talk to our respective...

I wonder if your disgust was rooted in being expected to have sex with them despite not being attracted. That would certainly turn me off! That said, I detect some judgment in your description of them. I mean, it's ok to have a type. My partner and I will never have a threesome together...

If this is your opinion, then what are you doing in a Polyamory forum? :p

Thanks for your response! Grumpy wishes it were that simple for both to carry their own bag, but fears that the relationship would implode if he asked for that. In any case, lots of food for thought here.

I tend to end up dating people who are at least 7-10 years younger than me. I cruise online for people my age or older, but I'm guessing they're looking for someone younger than me as well ;) Here's another pattern, this one divided by gender. I tend to be attracted to women who work as...

No. I edited my post to indicate this. Thanks for pointing it out!

Let me introduce you to Grumpy. Grumpy's FWB is Snoopy. Grumpy's live-in partner is Candy. Candy's other partner is Sneezy. Candy and Sneezy have unprotected sex because Sneezy got tested and is monogamous with Candy. Grumpy and Candy have always had unprotected sex and continue to do so. Grumpy...

Oh, fuck. I'm so sorry this happened to you. You're not the one to blame, I hope you know that. You're well rid of him! There are responsible, respectful guys out there (my FWB is one) - you'll meet one who deserves your trust and respect one day. Hang in there.

1) Did you ever worry about how you were going to be perceived by your peers? Were worried people were just going to assume that you were a cheater or player? How did you deal with that? No, because a) I don't care what other people think and b) Most of the people we know are poly (small queer...

How many of you here don't actually identify as poly? I'm asking, because my partner identifies as poly - sex is usually a gateway to relationship for them, they're not really into "casual sex", etc. I think I may be able to love more than one person. I mean, I've done it in the past, although...

Hi Learner! This is your husband. Ok, I'm joking, but seriously, I'm experiencing the same thing as your husband, and you are my partner. I posted a few weeks ago about my dilemma in this section. I haven't asked my partner to end his relationship, but I've asked him to talk about it to other...

Hi Colleen, I'm also an introvert, so I understand the need for space and some measure of social isolation. But I'm also very independent and I need contact with my friends on a regular basis. I see a whole bunch of red flags in your description of your husband, at least when it comes to...

This reminds me a bit of the situation I am currently dealing with, where my partner is involved with someone who has serious mental health issues. Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries! Set your boundaries and take a breather from contact with Red. Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do to...