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So I think of my current relationship and different ways it could have started. Neither of us got into the relationship with the idea that it would be polyamorous. It began as a monogamous relationship, but we were both interested in the concept of polyamory and how that type of relationship...

This is what I was trying to get at. Also, even if one did consider themselves monogamous, they could be dating/having sex with several people but not actually in a committed relationship with any of them yet. It wouldn't be until one of these people asks about exclusivity that you would...

I suppose it just seems a little intense to spring poly before the date has even taken place. If you were politically liberal and felt that you didn't understand/want to date someone conservative, would you lay that and any other "dealbreakers" out at the outset of a first date? I do see what...

Hi Everyone, I tried searching for a thread that touches on this subject, but I wasn't really able to find what I'm looking for (lack of correct keywords perhaps?). Please refer me to a proper thread on this subject if there is one. My girlfriend and I are in a poly relationship and I am...

@Galagirl I'll clarify. This relationship is interracial as well as poly. I'm a white man and she's a black woman. It is my first time "dating outside my race" but she has done so before and had some unhealthy relationships. My date was with another black woman that shares many of the same...

It's unfortunate that our start to poly has been so tough and rocky as I really want to make this kind of relationship work for me. I'm a rather shy person, so finding dates and relationships generally takes me a lot longer than most people. It had been a long time since I had been in a...

Thanks KC43 and GalaGirl. As I think about it, I personally don't disagree with any of what you both have written. There is still so much to think about and it seems like it will be an eternity before we actually get to talk about it tonight. However, I do want to care for myself and I now...

She did commit to not sleeping with anyone else, but we made no stipulation on her not spending time with him. He was a friend before all of this and they had hung out in groups a couple times since the last incident where nothing happened. I know I need to figure this out, and I'm not sure...

Hi all, I posted a month or so ago about some troubles that I was having just starting with Poly. Quick recap, my girlfriend and I set our rules and on her second sexual encounter with a man she broke the no condom rule that she was very adamant about herself. She decided that she wanted to...

Hi ShineOn, I'm starting to go through the same situation myself. My gf and I opened up our relationship to sex with others (polysexual) but she has started having feelings for her first sexual partner outside of me. After some initial missteps, we have been working being completely honest...

falis ndrdly Thanks again for the support. I will say one great thing that has emerged from this event that we had never discussed is what kind of open relationship we have in particular. I had assumed we both were operating as polysexual but not polyamorous. Until joining this forum, it is...

Thank you for these responses! I know she feels terrible about it and I have no desire to guilt her anymore than she has done to herself. While I'm all for the condom rule, the confusing part of this all was that that rule was something she was particularly adamant about. That's why it was...

Hi everyone, This is my first post here and I'm happy to join this community. My girlfriend and I recently decided to give being in an open relationship a try. While it was my idea, I haven't made a move outside of our relationship yet. She has had sex with one person on two occasions, and...