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I don't usually post via my phone. But earlier today at work, I had a sad, and I want to get it typed out while it's still fresh. My apologies for any autocorrect-caused typos, I'll try to edit them later. We had a date night last night; dinner, her favorite movie that I'dnever seen...

This post is about the other end of my life right now, my STBX. I could go into our history here, but the short version is that we both tried to be different people, and in the end we slowly reverted back to ourselves and we really had nothing in common... and we kinda refused to let go long...

This is one of those questions where it seems polyamory isn't really a factor. Age differences and differences in life experience are a factor in all relationships; everyone has to decide what they feel okay with. I'm sure we've all met incredibly mature 1-year-olds and people in their 30s who...

I appear to be getting a reputation on another forum for dispensing good advice. I hope they never find this blog, 'cause they'll realize how much of that I'm just winging, and how desperate I am to figure things out myself... So. A couple minor revelations today. Due to reasons, the wife took...

I tried to love a matress. But it was too windy.

Had a great date night last night. Except I can't eat fried food after one in the morning anymore. I'm getting old. Took a walk this afternoon; wandered downtown; ran into Light and Hubby randomly on the sidewalk. Hugged her, then got hug from him as well. I'm... I dunno. Happy? Even though I...

Because reasons. Firstly... well, he was there first. Secondly, I know I'd probably wind up overreacting when I really shouldn't. It shouldn't -be- bad news. And third... I'm aware I have trust issues. I'm aware they've only become worse over the course of my marriage. I need to work on that...

Okay. I spent some time thinking. This usually means I do something stupid, so I'm gonna just word-vomit here until I get it out of my system. First off, I'm finding something extremely strange. I'm perfectly fine with Light's husband. I do, however, find I have severe jealousy issues over her...

Hello, HLK. I'm in a similar situation. Mono male dating a married poly female. I've done a lot of reading the last month-and-a-bit. A lot of websurfing. A lot of soul-searching. I've got a blog in the blog section, it might help; you can PM me if you have questions and want to see if I've...

... Operation "Try flirting online and see if I'm okay with it" is on hold until further notice. Most recent subject's last message was "My folks are making me go to bed now so I don't miss class. Again." ... I'm hoping they're just really protective of their investment of paying college...

That's the theory. It's like a modified Joker thing... there was this story, The Killing Joke, where the Joker tries to get Commissioner Gordan to break and kill him. His theory is that anyone, even the best of us, can be a lunatic killer if they just have the right trigger. Well... that's my...

Yes, we're planning on filing the papers without a lawyer (If we can stay civil just a bit longer) but things keep conspiring to make us spend the $300 filing fee on other things, like home repairs, medicine, new renters not being able to pay rent right away, etc. I've got a contract...

About another month or so, I'm hoping. I'm debating the wisdom of dropping a house payment to do so, and then working out a payment plan to make up for the missed payment. Not my preferred choice, but... And no, she can't move out beforehand. Technically she could if we had the money for it...

Well. Last night started well. But it ended... rather poorly. While the STBX and boyfriend took our son to a wedding reception, I went on a double-date with my girlfriend, her husband, his girlfriend, and another random friend. I realize I really need to start doing nicknames for these people...

Then I'll just not mention it and if she ever finds this blog, she can read about it then.

So, quick opinion poll. I had a dream this morning which involved me, the girlfriend and her husband. I don't usually remember my dreams, but this was interrupted by my alarm, so it stuck in my mind. It wasn't... -extremely- lurid, and I've already psychoanalyzed it from here and back again...

Also, a random thought I had today that... I don't know if it'll help anyone reading this, who knows. Trying to move your headspace from 'mono' to 'poly' can be a -huge- undertaking. Huge tasks are harder to accomplish. We make it easier by splitting it into smaller tasks. For example... I...

Trust is like a sheet of paper. When you break that trust, the paper is crumpled up into a ball, stomped on, crushed. You can take the paper. Unfold it. Carefully work on it until it is a single sheet of paper again. It will never be perfectly flat again. It will always have creases and markings.

So, I suppose I should elaborate on previous posts since it's been a couple days. ... I mean, I was building drama as a literary device to... ah, right, I said no bullshit here. It's been a busy couple days. So, Sunday night I had what was, as bet I can tell, a minor nervous breakdown...

Okay. Bit of a long story to post from my phone, so short version: open, honest communication rocks. I'm just not used to being open and honest with myself. It's a bit scary. And I forgot... I'm not in this alone.