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I can't really talk about this anywhere else. Don't even know if it belongs here. But this blog isn't just about a relationship, I guess, it's about the stuff in my life that affects it. I just found out... in a very awkward way... that my soon-to-be-ex has a Fetlife page. And has had one for...

So, from Friday night through Saturday afternoon pretty much sucked. Stress upon stress, where even the little things started feeling like serious problems. And then she comes over, and the stress just... flows away. She continues to amaze me by saying things that I'm thinking, and then talking...

Jane -- I don't think it's complicated enough to be a 'tangle'. If I'm doing this right, it -was- a V that I've latched onto one of the ends of. So, um... an N? NYC -- Thanks. That did help chill me out a bit. kdt -- Yes, he knows. He gave the OK before we first met, and I met him earlier...

If it helps, our situations may be different but you're very much describing what I've been working through the last two weeks. It's almost like our brains refuse to admit they used to be wrong about something, because there's so much mental paperwork to go through when you change your viewpoint...

NYC -- I may used the wrong terms about the group. Didn't really have a better way to describe dinner and playing cards. Group-wise it reminds me very much of being in college and hanging out with a group of friends, some of whom may or may not be dating at any given time. Mag -- Admittedly...

Today, I have learned a part of dating poly that I hadn't considered. Today was a horrible day, culminating in finding that I need home repairs into the four-figure range that insurance won't cover. The kind of thing where you just need to vent on someone's shoulder for a while, y'know? Pick up...

I'll reply with more later, when I'm not on my phone, but I just want to point out: I'm not being insulting. We have an actual psychiatric diagnosis of her as being a nymphomiac. I am not denigrating her sex drive at all. The periods where she could tone it down a bit and I could pick it up a...

I don't know if I'll be updating this daily or not, since we don't always have time to get together... after tonight, I'll probably only update for major things and/or revelations. Or something. Anyway. I've been doing a lot of reading, of things here, links from here, things found while...

KC -- Some of that advice, I could have used for my marriage... and I may have thrown my two cents into a marriage squabble already, if "He's not stupid, he's on pain meds, my brother in law was on those, they make you really loopy sometimes" is throwing my two cents in. But there's good advice...

I started a post on the blog sub forum, but it was suggested I do one here as well, for more critical advice and whatnot. So, the short version: I'm a mono vanilla cis white male, and I've fallen pretty hard for a married poly woman who seems to have fallen right back. I don't want to a screw...

... And this shows why I should not try to write short, concise posts after one in the morning when I should be asleep by Midnight. Had a lot on my mind, and it got away from me. Sorry. Tl;dr version: mono guy falls for poly girl and decides that she's someone special so he's gonna give it a...

I went to dinner full of nerves and second-guessed misgivings. I felt there was a good possiblity I was making a bad move. I've had jealousy issues in the past... given that my marriage ended in part because I hated the thought of anyone else touching my wife, well, I began to worry I was...

I make a joke about considering it, then spent some time thinking. My experience with polyamorism consisted of two things: Some friends back in college who had declared me 'wired for mono', and the disaster with my estranged wife. So I started thinking... why? As I said, I was raised...

Si I guess I should explain who I am, where I've been, and where I seem to be going. I'm in my late thirties, and am pretty much the typical straight cis white male. I've been described as more vanilla than a bean and the guy Weird Al was talking about when he wrote the lyric "I'm nerdy in the...

I... don't know what to put here, really; I was reading through the forum and thought this might be a good place to ask questions, read stories, and maybe blog about my current situation. My name is Billy. Not really, but it's a name I'm comfortable using online. It's the only lie I'll allow...