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I'm also gonna go with compersion! I would be super enthused if my meta was going on a date and excited about it. :) Although, I have been worried about being encouraging our third to go on dates because I'd be worried she would think we were not that into her or something. Honestly I'd just...

So happy for you Pitagal. :) Be sure to keep us posted on your journey!

I'm commenting to follow. I'm in a V also where my partner's girlfriend is long distance. We have a close friendship developing and chat every day too. She says she's really happy and falling for my partner, but she also worries about the future a lot too and feels like she 'doesn't belong' or...

Haha I know minds can't be read. :P But sometimes just hearing similar circumstances helps. I think I mentioned the issues before; she thinks she can maybe handle us getting married and feel compersion over that, but she does not want kids, so if I got pregnant she would distance herself at...

I apologize, I think I may have worded things a little badly? I am worried she is giving up what she really wants to be with my partner; and while that is her choice, I want to make it as easy as I can on her while she's with us and let her know she matters to us and we will help her fit into...

Ask her! :) It doesn't have to be during play, but do you speak with her at all outside of these play sessions? I suggest asking her if she would be okay with you kissing her and seeing where the conversation goes from there! You may want to check with your other partner too, first, to make...

I'm in a similar situation, our third has been seeing us (mostly my partner) for about a month and a bit; my anchor and I have been together 11 years and I'm sure it's intimidating. She has admitted to feeling 'extra' and we do our best to reassure her, but there's only so much you can do...

Yes, that is true GalaGirl. I may step back and take more of a friend role myself soon if this persists or gets worse. I can already tell I'm holding back a bit because of it. She does also have depression and anxiety issues (I also have anxiety). She is on medication for depression, I know...

@MightyMax: This is true, although we don't really 100% have a romantic relationship as of yet, I've asked to just let things develop naturally if they are going to, but we have both said we would be happy as friends or cuddle partners. I could tell her that I think we may be best as friends for...

Thank you GalaGirl... I know my intuition is bugging me on some level, but was wondering if I am too close to it all emotionally to really see what is ringing warning bells. I want to think the best of her first, that is my nature, but I definitely have a feeling that she is Not Okay and using...

I feel really sad... she keeps saying things like how she's excited about spending time with us (in a few weeks) but adding in 'if [we're] not sick of her by then'. I asked her why she thought we would be and she said she didn't know. :( Then she vanished yesterday evening (very unusual) and...

Kevin: I feel like this is sort of where I am leaning too. We are fine where things are at right now, it's only been a month, so we really have to see where things go from here and, while it's good to talk about, they really are mostly things we will just have to deal with when they happen. I...

Hey all! First time poster. I've been with my partner for over 11 years. We've always had an open relationship (my idea) in a lot of ways, I knew my partner wasn't really a monogamous person. I ID as asexual and, at the time, didn't know if I'd ever be interested in sex. It took a lot of...