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Glad to hear that the conversation has gone well so well! Props to you and your courage in talking about this with your partners! :)

It's interesting to hear about other people's experiences of NRE. For myself, I had recently considered dating a friend of mine, who I'll call Indigo. I did start to feel some of that initial "crush" stage - the flirting, the wondering what would happen next, etc. In the end, Indigo and I...

Hi Danielsen, I'm going to point out the pattern here again. You feel insecure. You compare yourself to your wife's new partner. You seek reassurance (from us, from your wife, etc.). You feel slightly better temporarily. Until you feel insecure again. And the cycle repeats itself. It's not...

I also recommend that you start considering the possibility of her falling in love with one of her partners. Neither Roger nor I went into our relationship with others with love on our radar, and yet both of us fell in love. You can't always prepare for it. You might want to do some reading on...

I think before jumping to conclusions that she's (your metamour) doing this to be malicious, a bit more information would be needed. How long have they been dating? How long have you two been together? Do vetos exist in your relationship? Aka, might she be tip-toeing around, afraid that if...

I'm curious to hear people's experiences with NRE, the good, the bad, and the ugly :p. For me, it's a bit difficult for me to differentiate what's NRE and what's just loving being together. Jack and I have definitely had our periods of NRE, which initially, for me, was a blind infatuation...

Thanks, Kevin, for the feedback. I absolutely agree with the short and simple, to the point kinds of statements, as well as giving them space to ask questions before telling them about moving in. Depending on their reaction, the moving in part might be better saved as a later conversation to...

Glad you found my post helpful! :o I definitely believe that working through the uncomfortable emotions of Roger and Taylor dating has improved both of my relationships with my partners, as well as my relationship with myself. I will say that as you probably know, opening up a relationship will...

Thanks for the really thought-provoking questions, tenK and GalaGirl! tenK, I tend to agree with you about him sharing first and having me around for backup as needed. When I think about coming out to my family, I certainly can't imagine him being there the moment I tell them. Have them...

Hello everybody! I've read a number of coming out threads on this site, but I was hoping for some more specific advice related to my situation, if people are willing to provide it. :) A bit of background: Jack and I have been dating for 5 years now in a LDR and good friends for a lot longer...

Auuuuuuuugh, V card is the worst!!! :eek:

If you'd like to read more on couple privilege, check out: http://tacit.livejournal.com/578925.html. Your situation may not fit for all of it (you're not in a triad), but it might help to read part 4 in particular. In addition, you might want to read "More Than Two" by the same author of the...

It feels very couple privilege-y to me. "We" are more important than whatever relationship you have with one of us, so we have to protect ourselves. From what?? And what a way to feel "less than" their relationship. Ouch.

Yeah, you don't have to listen to everyone on this board... Sounds like you two are going about this in a super healthy way. But I know it's still painful, Ludlow. Including tons of communication and reading together (here, books like "More Than Two" and "Opening Up"), I think it's a matter...

I hate to say it, but if that is one of their rules to "protect" their relationship, what other rules are you not aware of? In other ways, how are you not treated like a human being and given respect? How else do they "protect" their relationship at the sake of you and your partner's...

I also want to voice my admiration of you, Reverie, handling this in such a positive, healthy way. It has certainly sparked thoughts in my mind about how seeing marks might impact me with Roger (or Jack, if he decides to date someone new). I know that after Roger shared sex with Taylor for the...

((((Huuuugggggg))) if you want it. That really sucks and I'm sorry you're going through such a difficult time. :(

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! :D may you three have all the happiness in the world!

I would say that an incompatibility between Roger's and my libido was one of the reasons why we opened up our relationship. Jack and I started as FWB, before developing into the full-blown relationship we have now. Roger is much more of a sex camel. Once every 1-2 months is about as often as we...

I'm not sure which question is it that is bugging you. You first ask how to not feel like a third, and then ask how to not feel lonely. They seem like different things to me. Or perhaps the loneliness comes directly from not feeling like an equal partner? What do you want it to look like? If it...