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Yes thank you for the response. I ve been strangely ok today. I ve been talking about it with my wife. Maybe it's because of all the work I have done on mindset and things in the past year, but I just don't need anyone's approval about our lives. It's so liberating. I care about my families...

Yes, thanks for the replies. Maybe I am making it out to be worse than it is, but I view this as an ultimatum and I don't tolerate ultimatums. What I didn't talk about is how he has continued to call my wife a cheater despite my numerous attempts to say otherwise. I tried to tell him to just...

We thanks. I appreciate that and I hope that you are right But you may not be. Yes I picked up a lot of what you are saying. Right now everything is fresh. My dad has been one of my heroes. He s part of the reason why I have such a high level of reverence and respect for women. It's never...

Thanks. I took care of it I think

Hey all. My wife and I opened things up about a year ago. I chose it and i was not forced by my wife who opened up as bisexual to me and needed to explore that. Our relationship has flourished in so many ways and we are so good together. Alright to the point. We were always going to tell our...

I mean my wife didn't communicate very well to her mom whom she asked to watch our daughter while she visited a friend for breakup support. I'm not actually accusing anyone of attacks. I am asking them not to. I am here to talk as I have done so for others in the community and maybe some...

I feel I need to clarify that I am in an 18 year lasting relationship. I practice active compassion in any hard conversations and do not resort to anything that involves attacking partners. I came here mostly to talk and maybe get some ideas for solution. I am not here to form a cabal against...

I heat what you are saying. I feel I need to clarify that I am I am 18 year lasting relationship. I practice active compassion I. Any hard conversations and do not resort to anything that involves attacking partners. i came hear Mostly to talk and maybe get some ideas for solution. I am not...

Anyways thanks yall for the responses. It's good to have a place to talk

Yes, thank you. I have already communicated that I am not an endless well of emotional labor. She is relying on some really good friends, as well. This is our first encounter with this kind of situation, so we are figuring it out. I am trying to find way where I can communicate: "Hey, you are...

It took her awhile to figure out she needed to start that again. We will talk more during our relationship check in. I feel I am going to have to be very candid. I suspected that she just hadn't done enough of the self work. Like reading the books and getting into herself. The power of this...

No. I know it's not my fault. I was just being supportive during a break up. I am just feeling neglected due to the amount of withdrawal the break up has caused. We will have a relationship check in soon. And we are going to talk about this. It's OK to have one's feelings after a breakup but...

Yes. It's just this past month that is inconsistent

Yes, I believe she has more to do around emotional regulation. She has gotten better about sharing the emotional labor among friends and not just from me. Now we got to work this accidental one-sidedness. It's just I like, I know it sucks, but, "Hey, I'm still here. I just had a big win. Could...

Yes, she does love me. It's really just been this past month with her new relationship crashing and burning twice. I know she does not mean to do it. There are new professional developments keeping us busy. But that's what I am talking about, just a little bit further, like, "Hey, thanks honey...

Hey y'all, this post is a bit of a continuation of the one I had started found here https://polyamory.com/threads/getting-stood-up-emotional-fatigue.156732/ Thanks for all the advice for that. It helped. A lot of post I see are about a partner helping their partner though a breakup. I...

She is restarting therapy

Yes, thank you. I didn't mean my wife isn't cut out for this. It's just she has spent most of the last 10 months looking for a woman to date. We have poly books she has only partially read and no regular therapy to unpack things. I suspect that she just wasn't prepared for this lifestyle yet...

Hey y'all. I just wanted to converse about something and figure some stuff out. 10 months ago I was poly-bombed by my wife of 17 years that, not only was she bisexual, but she needed to explore that. After much talking and work, we have expanded the relationship. We have grown and connected...

I Hello there. I feel the need to apologize for some of the responses you have gotten this old post. There is some good advice about deconstructing these agreements, about why they were in place and things like that. That's all well and good for future relationships. The part of how serious the...