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Sorry to hear about Cuba. Be kind to yourself as you grieve. It does sound like you and he made the right choice for both of you. Take care. :(

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*Waves* :) I just happen to love two men. But who knows what the future holds? I considered dating my best friend, Indigo, who's genderqueer, a while ago, but decided against it due to our circumstances. I also suspect I'll decide to be mono again at some point in my life, if one of my...

Can you ask him? We can hypothesize all we want through our computer screens, but he's the only one who could provide you with an answer. And if he chooses not to answer, then YOU can walk away knowing you did all you could and keep yourself healthy in all this.

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Seconded. I requested to meet Taylor as soon as possible, since I figured we'd run into each other eventually (she and Roger worked together). I wanted to make sure she knew that I was okay with them dating, as well as have a face to put to her name. But if she said no, I'd respect her choice...

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Do you live by any colleges/universities? They often have training clinics run by students who can offer very low fees (or no fees) for therapy. Or see if anyone in the community offers sliding scale fees (call one person and ask for referrals). If you're not able to find a therapist...

I have only read your most recent posts, so pardon me if I make errors in my post! 1) What would it mean to you if K was considered a "primary"? What would change? What do you feel like you would lose or gain? Could he ever put enough time/effort/commitment/sacrifice into the relationship...

How great that husband is supportive of you! Always awesome to see that on here, when we hear so many painful stories of partners who struggle to support their poly partners. Be sure to keep communicating with him along the way. Roger was really supportive throughout, but I think it made it...

This may not be useful for right now, but my thoughts after reading this post this morning and reflecting on it during the day: When Roger and I were mono, we pretty much had "our" nights 7 days/week. Any time that was spent outside of our typical schedule was handled like "hey, I'd like to see...

Would she be open to exploring it with you? Commit to just doing reading and discussions for the next 6 months (or so)? Schedule talks 1/month (or so) to check-in and discuss? Knowing that she or you may decide after 6 months that you both researched it and decided against it or for it?