Wife's Date

Yeah, it really isn't a numbers game. Nor, for some people, is it about gender, so again, asking why more women don't have more than one man in their lives is very heterocentric. It's about finding someone you click with and want to spend time with on a deeper level than friendship.

If your wife wants to date someone, cool. If not, that's her choice. She might be perfectly happy with having two men in her life and not want to think about a third. I'm usually good with two; I'm still trying to figure out how I got into my current configuration, though since Bouncer and I don't actually get together much due to his schedule, I don't really feel like I have three guys in my life. I feel like I have two guys plus this other one I talk to once in a while. And Bouncer and I are emphatically *not* in a relationship; we're friends with benefits and that's as far as it's going, by mutual agreement.

During the time that Guy and S2 overlapped as my boyfriends last year, it was a bit different, since Guy was long distance and we almost never actually saw each other, so even though I didn't *think* I wanted another partner, I was sort of open to seeing someone who lived close enough for me to actually spend time with face to face on a regular basis.

But as I said... for me, the other relationships don't last. This isn't a new thing. Relationships that I had before my ex-husband didn't last, and I seriously wish that one hadn't lasted either. Relationships that I had between leaving my ex and meeting Hubby didn't last. So it doesn't really matter when I say I have more than one man in my life, because odds are pretty good that won't be the case a few months down the road. And sometimes Hubby and any other partner I might have aggravate me so much I wish I didn't have ANY men in my life, because things would be a lot easier and quieter.
 
There are quite a few women members here with two or more male partners. I'm a straight woman and my ideal number of men I'd like to be involved with regularly is four.

Yes, four. That's my dream.

Admittedly, it is a fantasy. Not sure how it would actually play out, but that's what I would love to have happen for me.

And hey, threesnocrowd admitted in his post that he is biased, so we can't quite blame hhim for being heterocentric in what he wrote. He's finally living his dream and super happy about it.
 
True enough. I'm cynical and jaded, and kinda fed up with relationships in general right now, so I'm probably not the best one to respond to a question like this.
 
nycindie said:
There are quite a few women members here with two or more male partners.
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*Waves* :)

I just happen to love two men. But who knows what the future holds? I considered dating my best friend, Indigo, who's genderqueer, a while ago, but decided against it due to our circumstances. I also suspect I'll decide to be mono again at some point in my life, if one of my relationships end. I care much less about number and gender of my partners as I care about letting my relationships take whatever form they will.

Variety is the spice of life, eh? ;)
 
I have two husbands. I have for many years. It works for me but for other women I know that wouldn't work. They do not have the time or energy for that or just don't want it.

Both my husbands are allowed to have other women in their lives. They choose not to pursue other partners. Murf has absolutely not urge. Butch finds it too much work without enough benefit.
 
My two boys and I live together as a family. Any of us are free to pursue any other relationships as we see fit, regardless of gender or number. Our relationships with others may or may not overlap at times.

PS. Unlike some of the others, we are also open to group sex encounters when they happen. Welcome, but never expected. Usually it would be me and my boys - sometimes there are other configurations.:rolleyes:
 
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Ideally, I'd like one man and one woman. Though, I'm talking to someone who's transgender, at the moment. Like Jane, I'm also open to group sex encounters. So far, that's only be FMF, but I'm open to other configurations. Everyone's wired differently :)
 
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I've been in an MFM V since 2006.
 
The variety of relationships is really inspiring and demonstrates that there are so many possibilities. 4 NYC? That is very ambitious and I hope your dream comes true! For me the best thing has been to try and keep an open mind and just go with the flow. That can certainly be hard at times, especially when my wife went out on her first sleepover with her boyfriend. But even that worked out incredibly well for all of us. There have been some communication issues, some bumps here and there, but nothing insurmountable so far. I am so glad that there are women like you out there and other men like you kdt! This is a brave new world we live in and it is wonderful!
 
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Ok so its been a while again since my last post. The wife has now been with her now boyfriend (yeah!!!) for about 3 months. She stays over at his place pretty regularly and our relationship is better than ever! I was so nervous when this all started. I was afraid our relationship would suffer but we had talked so much about it and have been together for so long and have been so stable that we thought we could take the plunge and we have. After their first night together, I will admit I got a little jealous but when my wife told me how much fun they had and all the great things that they did it was just another thing to share with her and it has been wonderful. We are both happier and more in love than ever.

I really think that for us a MFM V-triad or whatever you call it is right for us. Her boyfriend is a really nice guy too and although we are not close yet, we are both very respectful of one another. I see him when he drops my wife home or when I drop her there and we have even had a drink once.
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I envy this. I'm glad things have been so good for you guys. :)
 
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