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Neon, some days I think that there are NO deep-seated issues, and sometimes I think there are! It 'feels' like I get blamed for the majority of the issues when things go south. Being the 'hinge' (I think that is the right word?), makes the other two people sort of reliant on me. If things are...

Neon, of course it is not worth the aggravation. (By 'it,' I am assuming that you mean the fight, not the relationship! Cuz that is up for debate at times as well! ;) ) The thing was, from my perspective, I just wanted to leave, and I think would have been content with just a 'good sleep' and...

Okay, again I need some help with communication. As you know we are me, the wife, with the husband and the girlfriend, C. Now, one woman is difficult for any husband to deal with, but when you get two, the challenges can be even greater (the fun, too)!! My question is, does anyone else have...

Hi Welcome...I am pretty new to the site too and am thankful for it, as it provides a great sounding board when the navigation of an "Its Complicated" relationship status becomes difficult. I would be the equivalent to the wife on the other side in your situation. My hubby and I have been...

Just a quick update, in case others out there are experiencing some of the same insane NRE. It truly is crazy! Friday night was incredible. The three of us went out for a night in the big city. I am not sure if it was the great communication that we had had for the two days preceding it, or...

Sparkler, I am pretty new to this whole thing as well, but....it seems that I have a similar issue as you in that I have this "in love/newness/lust/nre" thing STRONG for our third. I have such a strong attachment with her, and LOVE the idea of a new caring person in my life. She, C, loves me too...

So after the morning monster of yesterday, C and I ended up talking and talking, first on the phone. Then she came over and we talked and talked and talked. I was the one who actually said at one point, "We have already talked about that ad nauseum and I am not going there again." :p Ah...

So today, I woke up pretty happy, and started to work in my home office. My hubby was in his office and had begun a Skype chat with "C". As I watched my Skype window stay dormant, I could feel the monster well from the depths. I sat and took some deep breaths. Seriously, wtf? I have consented...

Sage, just from my very neophyte beginnings, I can say that I have never felt jealousy before like I have lately. The only thing that has changed is that we are new to poly, so I have to draw the same conclusion. The highs are so high, and the lows are so low and all encompassing. What's worse...

Wow, TL, you really rode a lot of ups and downs! I don't know if I am up for that! The ups are soooo incredible, but the downs just suck days out of your life! Days!!! Another strange thing is that I am such a softie (usually), and tears have been flowing all around me, and I have none to offer...

Communication 101 I was just curious if everyone has also had HUGE battles with communication within their relationship? (FFM. I am the wife of the husband with the girl, C.) I consider myself a very good communicator, but lately I just seem to not be doing a very good job. My husband has...

TL, explain more, if you can, please. The details bring me comfort! :)

Wow, great feedback. Thank you. I think that I may have not been framing things right lately. I 'know' that I am included in all this, yet the reptile brain kept pushing through, and still does, although I am trying to put the kibosh on it. Sometimes it feels like all the weight is on my...

Thank you both for your insights. Sage, you offer some 'sage advice' in the loving her enough to let her go idea. I have toyed around with the notions of love a lot, trying to figure out if those 'strong attachments' that I was feeling were me being in love, in lust, love, or the newness, or...

Hi all. I am new to the "Polly" lifestyle and to this forum. Thank you for letting me chime in. Our adventure started about 6 months ago, when a friend introduced a woman to us while we were at a pub. She and I hit it off famously, and soon we were going for runs and bike rides, lunches and...