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Are there any specific issues you were wondering about? How did you and your partner decide to open up? How long have you been together? What is your polyamory experience so far, if anything?

To me, to be honest, it doesn't sound like this man is the right person for you. In my opinion, you are asking too much of him and yourself, to try and work around the struggles his wife has with her apparent mental/emotional issues. I don't think this guy is cut out for polyamory at this time...

Is that also the "triad that fizzled" that you referred to? Um, what the heck? That was years ago, first of all. Secondly, her choice to cheat was her choice, I'd think. There is some weird unfinished business here, it seems. In the prior triad/V, is that what happened? You and Bob had to date...

I can see you wanting to stop trying to get with Cee, as the chemistry just doesn't seem right. What about Bob, though? Do you two have a long-term committed relationship? Do you live together? If your name is on the lease/mortgage, you co-own the space and have a right to not host people you...

Okay. I understand you want to vent, and that is natural and very healthy, to get all the anxiety just out of your head and onto the screen. I don't mean to stop you. I wanted to make sure you had a wee bit of background about the trouble(s) with triads. This situation is very hard, you having...

Great! If you have any specific questions or topics you'd like feedback on, please feel free to start a thread in the Polyamorous Relationships section.

Hi and welcome, Emma. Have fun looking around. We have lots of great info here. Here's something to learn about polyamory. Generally it's another type of ethical non-monogamous practice, swinging, that refers to their practice as "the lifestyle." We polyamorists tend to think of our approach...

Well, keep reading. It should help. Oh! Maybe you think the only way to do polyamory is in triad. A couple gets with a unicorn and everyone dates and does sex as a unit. Except of course you and Bob continue as a couple, dating, sex, sleeping together, domestic stuff. This is not correct...

As usual (and I say this with love) you seem to worry and worry about sex instead of just addressing it and speaking up. All you have to do is talk to Emma and Kaitlyn, either separately or together, and tell them exactly this. Threesome sex can be very awkward when you first try it. It takes...

Since you just jumped right in here asking for advice on your situation, you may not have looked around the forum to see all our resources. We have threads on every poly topic (including triads), going back to 2008. You can do a search for triad, unicorn, new relationship energy, and things like...

Hi and welcome. Mod note: I always do better with nicknames. So far you've referred to your established partner and the new one as pronouns only. "He/him" and "they/them" for your partner, and "they/them" for the new person. Since sometimes you refer to the two of them as "them," together, it...

It sounds like you think that would be too challenging, as the "hinge." You can say no, if you're not interested at this time.

Yet no one complains when we use the term monogamous to mean sexually exclusive: committed sexually to one person, even when you're not married. Gamos means marriage in Greek. So monogamous means married to one other person. Yet, when we are dating, if we are seeking a partner with sexual...

(y) Rather than The Ethical Slut, I might recommend Opening Up. Of course, you can read both, but more people find Opening Up helpful, as it gives a better overview of ENM. Ethical Slut was the first book on ENM, and better ones have come along.

Hi. It's very common to feel demoted, displaced and intruded upon when your partner's feelings for a new person seem to take priority over everything else, including you and your feelings, and your long-term relationship, and any attempt at thinking with some degree of rationality on the part of...

Hi and welcome, We ask that all couples coming here "seeking a third" to "add to our relationship" to please read this, for educational purposes and to comply with the intent of the forum. https://polyamory.com/threads/a-note-for-couples-posting-seeking-ads.156754/ Thank you, Your Mod Team

Hi, We ask that all couples posting ads seeking to add a third to their relationship to please read this, for educational purposes and to comply with the intent of the forum. https://polyamory.com/threads/a-note-for-couples-posting-seeking-ads.156754/ Thanks, Your Mod Team

I just stumbled across a thread from 2013, called "Polysexual." https://polyamory.com/threads/new-to-polysexual-relationships.55553/ and

I just love shibari, and I bet with your belly it would have looked so beautiful, and felt different in your hormonal state, too! So sorry it didn't work out, Tinwen.

There is always an underdog. Gays have more rights now. They can get married. Gay Pride has gone mainstream. Now the right wing is attacking transsexual people. And "queers" (in colleges? on Reddit? Twitter?) seem to think they own the term "polysexual." So the polyamorous community can just...