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I have documented elsewhere my journey into poly and have been "doing poly" for over 20 years, now. I the beginning I was fumbling - didn't know what I wanted, didn't know what to do in order to "do it right". I hurt some people that I cared about during that initial period. Then I (and my...

Some thoughts sprang up for me from another thread. Is Hugh Hefner poly? He has long-term relationships with many girls, who all know about each other and agree to the relationship style. Is his style of relationship responsible non-monogamy? I have my own opinions, but would love to hear...

Not for the first time I have been baffled by what is in folks' personal ads. most of them I have been able to work out for myself, but I am utterly stuck with one phrase I have seen multiple times - "something real". It's usually in the contexts of "looking for something real". This must be...

OK, more opinions from your truly, but I really would like to know if I am alone in how I feel about the Cuddle Parties that seem to be a semi-regular feature at Poly Conferences, etc. They make it very obvious that these are there as a non-sexual cuddling and otherwise touching party. They...

Please tell me this is just me, if it is... It seems like more and more folks are posting on various poly boards talking about the "relationship primarily for sex, and maybe with other feelings". My understanding was that this was swinging, not poly, which (I thought) focused more on the total...

So a post in the D&F/NA boards got me thinking, and even though I posted the question there, not everyone frequents those boards, so thought I would aks it here. Are there are folks on here who are active military? (Failing that, anyone who knows enough about the topic to contribute). What is...

So I see so many personal ads, here and in other places, that give so very few details about what they are looking for... I'm not going to pick on any one ad, and I am definitely not just picking on the so-called Unicorn Hunters out there, but isn't what you are looking for a little more than a...

I would just like to say how much I appreciate this forum. The open communications between all the disparate members is of great value to me. I have learned a lot, and wanted to say thanks to everyone.

A comment was made in another thread that I really think deserves some sort of discussion. The statement was made that young polys are being marginalized, and that new communities (the TNG networks, http://www.cpn-tng.org/wiki/ ) are being formed to cater to this age group. So I guess the...

Yesterday evening I had a nice encounter with an activist. She came to the door, and was looking for increasing awareness of an environmental issue (known as fracking, by the way). She was very polite, informative, and didn't talk down to me at all. When I told her that I don't tend to give...

There are some for whom "big-A" activism isn't for them for whatever reason (some a question of real-world practicalities and others for whom that is not their "style"). It's easy to feel that we can't make a positive difference in our communities if we don't follow the big Activist Agenda...

As on so many other discussion boards, the whole definition thing seems to come up with amazing regularity. Whether it is discussion of the differences between polyamory and swinging, what love is, and so on and so forth. I really don't want to open up those discussions again - there are...

This isn't poly-related which is why I have chosen to post this here, but over the years I have struggled with how I should act towards people who I perceive have been a negative influence on my life. So I found this story summary today that I think seems to sum about a great deal of wisdom in...

Hello - just want to make a quick post to introduce myself to the group. I have another name that I tend to be known as on the internet (my "nom de net"), but since this is a public forum, I will not reveal it. I am a 40-something living in Upstate New York, in a poly "V" with two wonderful...