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My partner went to see "Her" this last night and said it was one of the best films he has ever seen. The story is about a guy who has an operating system for a girlfriend and yep, she's totally polyamorous. :D

I was on this forum, a couple of years ago now as the mono in a relationship with a poly partner. Got my act together with some amazing help from you guys and left the forum because I felt I was sorted on the poly front. I see there a still a few familiar names here from the past but most of...

I recently put up a survey on the yahoo mono/poly and poly/mono boards. The results were very interesting.It's still going on so I haven't collated it yet but there is a very disturbing trend. Monos in poly relationships are generally not very happy, no matter how hard they work at it, not in...

As the mono in my relationship it was fairly easy for me to work out a basic set of principles or rights for monos in polymono relationships, but I would be really interested to know what expectations polys have of their partners and of themselves towards their partners? Do you think these are...

This is a big issue I want to address on my blog and I'd like some help from you guys please. New Years Eve was the last straw. I spent it largely trying to convince my son-in-law that I'm not a victim in a relationship with a guy who is "getting to have his cake and eat it too" (hate that...

I'm starting this thread because I seem to keep almost hijacking KT's blog and I think there needs to be a place where monogamous behavior can be discussed openly without fear of upsetting anyone. There seem to be a few people on here struggling with monogamous/polyamorous relationships at the...

Z's SO is pulling away from him. He can feel it and I can feel it. She is a "free-spirit" who lives in the "Now" and is very hard to pin down. In the beginning of this pulling away I kept suggesting things. Now I've stopped, given up, he seems emotionally paralyzed. I can't support him as if...

If Compersion is the opposite of jealousy what can we call the feeling we get when our loved one is hurting over another relationship and we feel that too? All I could come up with is discompersion because of the discomfort it brings up, but it isn't right. Suggestions please.:confused:

Your thoughts and some empathy would be much appreciated. The Unicorn has run rampant! The other night she had her second sleepover. I said I would go upstairs to sleep after the action because I have to get up early and don't sleep well with three in the bed. Z said no, we should take turns...

Coming from a mono perspective I suppose i have had until now an underlying belief that in a mono/poly relationship the mono has to work harder. I'm starting to see that it's probably just different work. I watch Z and I see that he doesn't have quite the same level of contentment in our...

http://www.indymedia.org.nz/sites/default/files/Juggling_the_rainbow.pdf Lying in bed on a wet, wintry Saturday morning, Z came across these writings and he has finally decided that yes he might just be polyamorous. The writings are interesting and sparked discussion in a few area. I'd be...

Until last year I had never even heard of polyamory but my X and I had often discussed having an open marriage. It struck me as I was trying to write about having affairs on my blog that if we had had a decent understanding of polyamory we probably would have had a successful marriage. Which...

I have just read kattail's blog and I suddenly feel really weary with all this. My story isn't very exciting: just a women in love with a man who is in love with two women. I have given advice, because I've been in this position for nearly two years now, so I can identify with people just...

....take on a secondary whose partner doesn't know what he's up to? Thoughts please:)

I think you are being a bit delusional. If this woman and her husband did not have a close relationship she would not be "eaten up" by his relationship with you. My partner is poly, I am mono and accepting his secondary is an ongoing struggle for me. I would love to know whether you and she...