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    Agree to these rules?

    Hello everyone!!! I used to post here regularly, and it's been quite a while!! I'm hoping that you are all doing fantastically well, both new and old members! ;) Just a brief bit of background, and then an update and question! <3 I was in a poly V for six years. It was long-distance - me in...
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    In the line of fire

    Hi guys, My partner (GF) broke up with her long-term submissive/boyfriend (Garcon) 48 hours ago and things are rough. It's not the first time they've broken up, but it seems like this time it might perhaps be final. She's understandably very upset and I'm trying to be there to support her...
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    What would you do?

    Hi guys, So, I'm just going to get straight down to it. In our poly V, we've always had a rule about practicing safe sex with others. When this has involved PIV sex, condoms have always been a requirement. However, my GF recently had sex with her current secondary for the first time...
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    how to deal with a do-over?

    Hi guys. My GF had a troublesome but intense relationship that ended last Spring. She is now considering dating the guy (we'll call him Mike) again. I could really use some help navigating this. They originally broke up (9 months ago) because my GF couldn't handle the stress from both him and...
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    Breakups and the bigger picture

    Hi guys, I hope you are all well. Ah, the life of Sparklepop is a right pile of shite right now. ~grins~ Get your popcorn. I'm looking for perspectives and advice on navigating breakups in poly. Also, the concept of 'pseudo-veto,' where your partner never outrightly requests that you end a...
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    HPV and promiscuity

    Hi guys, I went on a date last night with a girl who told me that she has HPV1. I have to confess that I am not overly knowledgable about it and so, whilst doing my own research online, I wanted to come and ask for personal experiences and viewpoints of people here. I'm very cautious about...
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    Tell the truth?

    Hi guys, I have a question regarding communication styles and poly. My GF and I are doing pretty well, but there is a continuous stumbling block around one issue. (ack, long as always!) I believe in open, honest, regular communication. No blame crap - just "this is how I feel, I'm working on...
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    GF split with secondary - shutting me out

    Hi guys, Question My GF has just broken up with her secondary (P) of two years. She is distraught... and to make matters worse... we are currently in two separate countries; so I cannot be there for her in person. Furthermore... it is her nature to slam the walls up when she's hurt. She...
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    hurry up and feel better, already

    Hi guys, I could use some help and I'll try to keep it as short as possible. I've hit a brick wall with my GF and I'm at a loss. GF is feeling frustrated and impatient, because she feels that I will never be happy whilst she's dating other people. She said this frustration makes her feel like a...
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    Trains, Planes and Polymobiles

    Hi everyone, Well, I thought it was time I started my own little blog here, peppered with a little Sinatra mood music ;) It will give me something to do when I am not out chasing skirt. Which means I'll have absolutely no time to post, whatsoever, obviously. ~grins~ Actually, at the moment, I...
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    envy, envy, envy

    Hi guys. I'm sorry about the length. I find myself facing a new battle in poly. I have never really experienced envy before and I think that is what I am going through... My GF and I have a LDR poly V - I live in the UK for 3-4 months, then with GF, her hubby and our toddler, in the US for 3...
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    unfair long distance rules?...

    I'm in a long distance poly relationship with my GF, where I switch between the US and the UK every 3 months. I've just finished a wonderful stay in the US. While I was there, my GF got hot and heavy with a guy over text/IM and was heading towards sleeping with him once I returned home. Last...
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    how to slay the dragon once and for all?

    Hello everyone, It's been a little while since I've posted, but of course, three months cannot pass without a new poly dragon to slay. Mind helping me please? Background info on my footer, below post. :) ~~long as always - sorry!!!~~ So, I am having real trouble accepting a particular guy in...
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    instant drama - just add one person?

    Hi all, Well, I've been answering a lot of threads lately and thought it's been at least a few weeks since I shared my own special (waffly) blend of Sparklepop drama... My GF and I date separately and are happy with that, but love the idea of sharing a partner. She generally clicks with men...
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    guilt after sex?

    Morning everyone, So, I had a strange experience last night. I slept with a girl I've been dating for the first time. This is my second sexual partner outside my poly relationship. The first was around Christmas. On both occasions, I have noticed that I felt strange afterwards. Kind of...
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    Sexual Health in Poly

    Hello all, So, a little question about the sensibilities of poly... ;) I am curious as to how often it is sensible to get tested for STDs/STIs. In the past, I have been monogamous and was tested before each new relationship. Now I'm poly and my girlfriend is about to sleep with a new person...
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    Feeling Stressed About Having Many Partners

    Hi everyone, My partner is feeling stressed about being the more active one in our poly triad. I'd really love some advice and will try not to ramble. Which blatantly means I will... ;) Laura is my girlfriend. She is the hinge in our FFM poly V. She has been married to Mark for 13 years, mono...
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