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  1. Magdlyn

    Allosexual husband of an asexual wife explores options

    You might have found this thread less challenging because it is a blog. In this section, normally, there is not much feedback, unless the OP asks for it. And while harsh criticism is discouraged across the board, it is entirely forbidden in this section. This is Fogul's blog, so if you want to...
  2. Magdlyn

    Have nesting partner, was poly once before, now conflicted

    Welcome! Would you mind going back into your post and editing it to use nicknames instead of initials for the other people? We ask members to do this because it makes reading and understanding much easier. Thanks. :)
  3. Magdlyn

    Allosexual husband of an asexual wife explores options

    SpMd, I appreciate you shared more about your journey. I hope your insights help Fogul. However, you left people on your own thread hanging and added your updates here on this other person's blog instead. Questions were asked on your own thread that went unanswered. You seem to answer them...
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    Advice needed, please...

    I edited your posts to give a name to your now ex-gf. Just for clarity's sake, we ask members to give nicknames to their partners and metamours. I think you and Hubby and Wife are lucky to have a solid triad. (At least, you sound solid.) I guess all three women are/were submissives to Hubby...
  5. Magdlyn

    Advice needed, please...

    Are you only wanting to DM with people, or would you like to ask more specific questions on here, to get a variety of feedback? We are an anonymous board. Use nicknames for your partners.
  6. Magdlyn

    The butterfly diaries

    I hope it's not too bad!
  7. Magdlyn

    Poly Couple very new to lifestyle

    Polyamory isn't "the lifestyle." Poly practitioners don't use that term. It's more often used for and by swingers, those who mostly "play" (have casual sex) in couples. Polyamory isn't first and foremost about sex. Nor is it about group sex in triads or quads or more. It's about loving multiple...
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    The butterfly diaries

    Oh, are you saying you have Covid again??
  9. Magdlyn

    Settling In

    Knowing Adam, a vacation for several days? close to a week? to an entirely different country might be too much too soon. Maybe just start with a kinda local vacay of three days to a cute BnB and ease Adam into it. That will probably be hard enough on him.
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    Safety and security

    My general modus operandi is to tell my gf what his name is, his phone number, where we'll be meeting, and approximately how long I think I'll be out. I meet in a public place. Rarely do I bring someone home on the same day after a first meet and greet. Then on the second date, we might meet in...
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    A newbie and an already established relationship-- please help

    I agree with Evie. You've only been dating Lex for three months. You're deep in NRE. Everyone is on their best behavior for the first few months to a year. NRE fizzles over time, depending on one's personality and how often one sees one's new partner. Usually it's gone by two years in, unless...
  12. Magdlyn

    A newbie and an already established relationship-- please help

    Hi, welcome to the board. Mod note: would you please go back and add nicknames for your partner and their spouse? It really helps with clarity and ease of reading, and even moreso when using the pronouns they/them, to use actual names for the people you are involved with. Thanks!
  13. Magdlyn

    Navigating poly post newborn

    Most new parents have no idea what it's going to be like, no matter what people tell them, or what they read about what to expect. Of course, some people do have easy babies, or the mom doesn't breastfeed and they have nannies and housekeepers, and so their lives don't change as much. But...
  14. Magdlyn

    FWBs with someone in an open relationship

    Let me be straight with you. It seems to me like you avoid slightly tough situations and then flounder in a no-man's land, not knowing what's going on. I suggest you lean into unclear situations and set things straight. What's the worst that could happen? An undependable man leaves your life...
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    The ending of my polycule

    QPLP- queer platonic life partnership
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    Navigating poly post newborn

    New babies make our lives crazy and complicated no matter what our situation is, a mono couple, a single parent, or a poly couple in a network. Parents of new babies don't really go "on dates." They are usually too exhausted to get dressed and go out for an evening date. The best time for a...
  17. Magdlyn

    what have I done wrong?

    I agree with what others have said about this guy trying to juggle too many people, and possibly being a NRE addict or harem builder. But as for your above question, yes, more love is possible with polyamory, from multiple people. But you don't get the dibs on all of a poly person's time. They...
  18. Magdlyn

    Here we go again

    I was just watching a YouTube on ancient Hebrew religion, regarding all the laws they had about women being owned (we call it marriage, they didn't) by men. If a woman was taken by one man (penetrated, and moved into his home) and then divorced for being unpleasing, she was considered dirty...
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    Nesting

    It sounds like you were/are in a state of NRE and let him move in with you when you really didn't know him well at all. He has been living [rent-free?] with you, in exchange for child care, but now he's getting pretty busy out there partying and dating, leaving you home with the kid and without...
  20. Magdlyn

    The ending of my polycule

    To be honest, I can relate to your feelings about Shay wanting to remain friends with someone who hurt you badly. I went through a similar experience with a past dating partner. They ended up behaving in a disgusting and even dangerous manner to me after their NRE wore off. My nesting partner...
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