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I have written several posts here with my story. (I'll write succinctly about them here, but you can also see them at http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=70516 and http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=70009) I have been seeing a girl for about 4 months now, We have been...

I am not sure what the following sentence means: "Many people get MONDO touchy about being told they are dropping the ball". I didn't tell her I am considering breaking up with her due to not telling me, I guess you could say I am not fully honest by not saying I am thinking about it, but I...

I didn't really set an ultimatum or punishment, I just told her it is important to me, and she said herself that she'll tell me these things. After I asked her about kissing someone and after she answered, I still didn't talk about any punishment, I just told her it bothered me a bit because I...

I do feel as well that the need to "report" could be annoying for some people. Weekly discussions do seem much more friendly and give a chance to create a comfortable atmosphere where we both share things, so I like the idea. I would still probably want to have a talk in those discussions about...

Yes, I do agree that perhaps she is not comfortable with this agreement. I still think it is her responsibility to tell me if she isn't comfortable with certain agreements, and not simply break them, but I understand what you are saying. I should definitely ask her how she feels about this...

That's a good question. I guess it just gives me a feeling that she has nothing to hide in terms of her relationships, and that I know how emotionally involved she is with other people she is seeing. Probably it won't be there forever, but at this point we haven't really done many things with...

I thank you for your comments to my threads, but I am quite certain my relationship is not suffering due to me using the term "girl" for young women (ages around 18-30), it is commonly used where I'm from, as in "I'm going for a night out with the girls"

Yes, a make out kiss. Don't know how serious the make-out was, but certainly not a casual kiss. They are friends who has sex once. At this point we have an open relationship agreement, where we can get physical with other people, none of us has expressed interest in having an ongoing...

A helpful answer, thank you.

Girl hid kissing someone else from me, even though we have a rule to tell each other I have mentioned this open relationship in previous posts. We have been seeing each other for 3 months, she slept with two guys since then and told me about it, I didn't do anything physical with another woman...

I posted earlier about a girl I am going out with, the whole story is on this thread: http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?p=268600#post268600 I'll make a long story short. I have been seeing a girl for three months, Let's call the girl I am seeing Girlie. In these three months we said...

Hey. Not too much new, my first challenge was the jealousy, I feel I am quite past that. I had a second challenge about managing STDs, I opened a seperate thread about it: http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=70080&page=2 I feel I am quite past the STD issue, we talked about it and I...

Yes, papers would be much better :) But asking them still has many advantages. especially since the guys she slept with are both her friends, they have some trust between them, and there's a good chance they will tell the truth, and maybe even work their heads a bit and think whether they are at...

Should have mentiond she did use a condom with the first guy. So both times she did it (with each guy she did it once) she used a condom. I take it back that HIV is the only thing I am worried about. I do not actually know about all STDs. I've read about Herpes, and it seems to be quite...

I posted previously about starting an open relationship with a girl. I am encountering my second challenge at the moment, and it is related to managing STDs and setting rules about them. I am quite strict when it comes to these things, and the girl I am in an open relationship with is, I would...

I certainly don't perceive things as you seem to suggest. Regardless of my choice of wording

Anyhow, I'll update about the current situation. She had since then slept with another guy, this time I don't feel nearly as jealous. I am hoping that with time I will get used to it and won't feel much pain anymore. So far I haven't been with anyone else, I am very curious as to how I'll feel...

I was referring to the "fallacies" about polyamorous relationship. It may be that "If you love it, let it go" is the standard I should live by. But I was simply referring to my opinion, that logically, in a polyamorous relationship, I sense there is more chance of her leaving me. Maybe I am...

hmmm... I think it would mainly matter to me if she leaves me for someone else, if she just develops the connection, but stays with both of us, I think I could handle that. Are there other mindsets that I wrote about which you think are problemous when it comes to open relationships?

Well i do realize the fallacies to some level, but I think that even logically I still think that letting her be with other man increases the chance that she leaves me. But OTOH I also logicallt realize that the more freedom I give her, the happier she will be. It's about finding some balance I...