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An interesting poly-adjacent development occurred that led me to thoughts of posting here: I don't know if those of you who used to read me here remember Cherry. She was the girl I was just starting to date who was there the night I met Dustin, and I'd broken off dating her to try to simplify...

@Magdlyn yeah, sometimes I feel like a defective animal, basically. I know it's silly, but I do. I feel like any ol' alley cat can have some kittens, any butterfly can make some caterpillars, and here I am, a healthy, stable, well-partnered human mammal, and I'm struggling. It's hard sometimes...

@Evie Thanks for your kind reply! The spoiler button is a gem. It's in the formatting bar under the three dots near "table," if you have trouble finding it. I like the new format. At least on my laptop. It's a bit annoying to me on mobile. I still lurk like once a month or so to catch up on the...

Hello! Checking in for my yearly update. Things are a bit crazy here. I'm finishing my second semester of grad school, which has been a lot, but so far not more than I can handle. I'm doing part-time, so I still have two years left after this. Dustin and I just went through our second...

I still lurk here sometimes (hi!!) and re: the Reddit post thing, I no longer remember the details because it was like 2 or almost 3 years ago at this point, but I remember someone I am friendly with on here came to my thread with a similar thing: they'd read out in the wild somewhere a post...

Thanks, Mags, I will definitely explore that lead! :D

Thank you all for weighing in on this—that is all really helpful and optimistic information. I do tend to doing things the natural/crunchy way, and I definitely like the idea of not being at a germ-filled hospital at this point in our global health, so maybe it would work out for me. Perhaps I...

Hiiii everyone! :D Thanks for the concern, Mags! I love hearing from experienced professionals about things that I know little about. I meant the forceps were to pull the IUD out myself if I couldn't get an appointment to do so. I've done a bunch of in-depth reading and apparently 80% of IUD...

I said maybe I'd make another update in another year, and I guess it's been a little over that. A lot has happened again! I got accepted to my first choice of grad schools and start this coming August. It's an online program so I don't have to leave town. I'm currently finishing up my last...

I am deeply sorry to hear of your recent hard times, and I hope you mend as cleanly and as swiftly as possible, given the messy and ill-timed circumstances.

Congrats! I'm super happy for you! :D

Thanks, folks! Yeah, it has been a wild and amazing ride. Maybe I will post another update in another year. :)

Well, hello there! It's been a year since my last post. I had marked it on my calendar to see if I felt like doing an update post a year on, and when I saw it today, I thought "why not?!" I do occasionally miss you guys—after all, you were my REAL internet friends—and sometimes I still lurk...

( . . . continued from previous) About a week before Rider and I broke up, Dustin and I broke up too. Dustin had been perfect and amazing for about a month, and then one day, he lost his shit again. I told him that he had a decision to make: either he gets his shit under control (by whatever...

The last thing I posted in this blog ended in ellipsis. It's been two months, and I think I'm ready to move on to a true chapter closing, with a period. After a conversation I had with Rider this morning, I decided that it would feel better for closure to tell the ending of this story. Rider...

Does he like to read? I just started reading this book, and it's great. It was also on e-book lend from my public library, available to read on Kindle App (so on computers, phones, etc. in the absence of a Kindle). If you can get him to read this, it might help him. I know it's been helping me...

I was somehow born with only three wisdom teeth, but I got them all removed at once in 2010. The top one actually had a root up into one of my sinuses and both of the bottom ones were impacted. One of the bottom ones was so big and awkwardly placed that they had to saw it into several pieces to...

Hi, Tinwen. I'm doing OK. Yes, I've pretty much decided to stop writing here. It's actually a transition that makes a lot of sense to me based on a number of factors other than just the privacy concerns that tipped the balance: I was starting to feel like input from others was spinning my...

Also this latest thread is now making me question the ethics of having my blog. Maybe I'll just be done. I feel like I'm thisclose to both of my relationships ending anyway, for their own reasons, and I'm not planning to ever be poly again.

Thanks for the elaboration. That all makes a lot of sense. I think, in reading that, that I do have trust issues around a LOT of that stuff. I don't have any relating to Annie in particular—I actually have no fear that she wants to end my relationship with Rider or anything like that—but "people...