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I kind of feel like what icesong said here; I too feel like at least right now that I couldn't handle this type of scenario due to my insecurity but over time and with more comfort who knows? I do like your idea of identifying alone time and think that is an excellent thing to do. =]

I do intend to look into and participate in this when the time comes. I'm glad to hear it was so great and helpful for you and I hope for the same result!

Very helpful advice! I think this is how my wife feels right now and has felt for some time. Personally (really just my opinion..) I think she considered practicing it again but we then decided to have our first child. Now that our second is soon to be here I know a lot of time for the near...

Again - not to sound like a broken record - but really helpful information and thank you again! Time is a big concern of mine and I worry about the balance of things overall. I think as with other things it's just important to really be open and honest with my wife and really make sure that...

Really interesting to read all of this. I agree that sometimes you just can't learn until you do through experience and that usually those are the hardest lessons to accept. I think the idea of taking a step back to figure your own self out is good and I've been doing a lot of reflecting and...

Good things to know. I really never considered the aspect of a LD relationship and honestly I haven't given any thought yet to the topic of frequency and length of dates/time spent with others. I figure that's something for another post. =] Never really considered the getting along with...

Thank you very much for the suggestions! I do plan to talk to my wife more about what I've expressed here when the time comes. Again for right now I'm really just trying to understand and gather information to learn more about the lifestyle so I can be better prepared when we do ultimately...

Another separate question and thought I've had with all of this: time for my wife and I and kids. Obviously when she is going out with someone or when I go out with someone the other will either be watching the kids or have made plans for an in-law or someone to help out. It wouldn't shock me...

I can already sense that! It can be overwhelming at times but I'm ultimately committed to making it work for us. Please feel free to offer me any advice you wish as well! I'm welcome to any thoughts/suggestions that anyone has on here during this time; I figure the more I know the more I can...

Part of me does think at times that the fear I have is very irrational and not built on anything; it's just inside of me. I think part of it is that I'm scared of this because it's completely new territory to me. It's not your everyday conversation or subject so when I hear or talk about it it...

Good things to know. Thank you for answering those questions for me. It's definitely a topic that we'll discuss in the future and it's good to know what all of our expectations should be going into it. Really appreciate you sharing this information with me because this is how I feel at...

I could certainly try to do that. I guess more of what I was trying to convey is that I feel on a more or less spiritual level I really just feel I'd be lost without her. Not really in like a religious way and I dunno.. it's kind of hard to explain really but I just truly feel like she is the...

I don't really know what I would do. I know I would feel devastated and extremely sad. I love her so much and really I cannot even imagine my life without her. I would feel devastated about our kids as well; not because I wouldn't see them because nothing like that would happen but family...

Thank you very much for the comments. All of what you said is completely true - there are many ways besides a poly lifestyle that I can lose my wife; whether it be intentional or a tragic accident. A mono lifestyle isn't the ultimate shield of protection. It's just simply the fear at this...

I guess this is where my fear kicks in. I can see what you are saying here but even as you worded it - "generally." Nothing is absolute. I know that if I was doing everything right and it still happened then it probably falls under "wasn't shit I could do about it no matter what" or something...

This is EXACTLY how I feel. I feel extremely conflicted because I have the same thoughts and feel like there are gaps that can't be filled.. yet they CAN be filled but with stuff that I'm not sure I want to know or hear about.. yet then I feel like there are gaps.. and as you can see the...

No worries at all and congrats on 15 years! That is wonderful. =] Completely true that there is no other person as of yet; I guess at this point I'm coming to grips with the fact that at some point in the future there will be and when that time comes I want to be as prepared as possible to...

LovingRadiance, First off thank you very much for the reply. My apologies regarding your first thought I should have been more specific: while we have talked over the past few weeks intermittently she made the comment that she had relationships in the past where she shared her details with...

Hello to everyone. First of all, thank you for taking the time to read this post. It's a lengthy one but I really feel that I need to share as much as I can to hopefully get the best answers I am seeking. I welcome any comments that anyone can provide to me as I really want to try and...