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Drop the poly talk, period. Focus on your monogamous relationship and healing since monogamy is all you really want right now. Breathmisic gave you exacrly what to do. YOU are NOT in a polyamorous or open marriage and you do not want to be. Unless that changes, which is unlikely, any...

Diverdude Sorry for your situation but you are at the point in my opinion that you might be better served on an infidelity forum than this one. As kdt just said correctly, you are not interested in a poly or open marriage, never really were, and never should entered in it in the first place...

Dangermouse Thank you sexyserb, That's really interesting and it's kind of how I feel about everything. I was of the opinion that poly is a sexual orientation and not a choice but it's interesting what you write about going back to mono. Is that what you have done/are doing? How have you found...

Dangermouse Nope, never done it and don't intend to. Maybe I should have written 'easier' option rather than 'easy'. None of this is easy but in my mind the situation is that we have some obstacles (or whatever you want to call it) in our relationship and rather than give up with what we have...

My small experience of non-monogamy has shown me that all the research I’ve done about the benefits not just to me, but to us as a couple, are true. Dangermouse From your post, doesn't seem like you are as convinced as what your wife states here . Are you??? Your post indicates you are not...

Bluebird This could be one of a few things (1) An offer hopefully. But a lot of companies have HR offer you on the phone if decision already made (2) A final meeting with additional decision makers if more than one candidate remains. (3) A final meeting with more than one interviewer. This is...

No YOU are causing conflict and killing your marriage. You have without telling him from the beginning totally moved the goal posts and he never bought in to what YOU have decided unilaterally Changing the boundaries and rules can ruin a non monogamous relationship as well as a monogamous one...

It is common for men to have much less luck than women in poly; you are not alone. Sounds like you did not do much research before you started this adventure or the above would have not been any surprise to you. And you didn't give much detail so anything anyone responds to you is guess work...

Like Dinged, I am a little confused by your post. On the one hand, you BOTH have had other partners. So just guessing, but it was more like a together thing or not recurring for a long period that involved you being alone. Dinged asked another good question as to were you "coerced" into the...

Photo, Lets start here from your first post I'm wondering how I can bring up the topic so we can discuss it. I want him to be reassured that if it's not something he would be comfortable with, then I'm not either To here I want to be polyamorous with or without Boston. And this statement I'm...

If you agreed to primary- secondary and you are the primary? And now she's changing the deal? The old deal is over. There is nothing to survive. It's over. You do NOT have to sign up for a new deal where you are now the secondary partner. If you aren't into that? Don't sign up. I would ask...

Lucille So your husband, who has had these feelings for years has just very conveniently come out to you as poly AFTER he has already developed a relationship that it sounds like you were clueless about until recently. So to start with if that’s the case no he has entered an affair either...

Well OP, as you leave here I hope you get some help from a professional because your wife is and will destroy you emotionally since from everything you have written you are just being brought along as baggage to farmer Thor. What is totally baffling is you’re APPARANT total fascination and...

So you’ve been cheated on, are emotionally not in a good place, and are now contemplating entering or staying in a relationship with a women who is totally unstable ( packing her luggage to leave is not normally a sexually motivating activity) , has obviously deceived you into thinking she did...

Rachel Since you did not explain what the complicated portion of your "cuckold" relationship was, it is hard to offer advice or answer questions. As Al99 stated, this lifstyle is not as common here as it might be on a site totally devoted to that. if you are the "hotwife", you might want to...

Floor Chicken Thank you! I know I keep thanking you, but what you're saying to me is very meaningful and it makes me feel less terrible. These last few weeks, I was thinking that I was just being stubborn, old-fashioned, possessive, or close-minded. I might just share what you wrote with him...

Jane, I think it was you who made the statement. And it is totally understandable. Sorry I forgot to highlight what you had said properly.

Ladies, I think the comment in 106 was something Jane said about maturing and attractiveness. I probably did not highlight it properly. I apologize. Magdlyn, at 63 and with what you have had to overcome health wise, you are entitled to men of any age you want. I think different people have...

Ardeen OK. Gala Girl just gave it to you eloquently. I’m going to give it to you with no sugar coating. From what you just posted, your wife has been “working” on this guy for six months without you being totally in the loop. So that means this is not HOTWIFING in any sense of the word, and...

There is the perfect response, and I will expound on it. Your desire to see her with another man is a common male fantasy but only a small percentage of men do not get “cold feet” like you. And from your description, she is exactly the opposite of the correct aspect regarding sex to do that...