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Thank you Galagirl I know and have solidified my position and while I understand Y's safety is not my responsibility. I want to be there incase X gets out of hand. I am in a much better place now especially with the assistance from you guys as well as offers to help from friends. Several of...

Thank you, I appreciate the well wishes. We might have to reset it just so that we can all manage.

Thank you for your suggestion GreenAcres will try that route. Would appreciate if you could edit your post if possible.

I have started blocking him too but still insists on meeting so keeping his entire family on speeddial if it gets out of hand. Not the best way to handle things but if he wants me to handle with my mess with my family, I will return the favor. I can't thank both of you enough, the support and...

Thank you both for your support. I have removed mention of in case he is lurking here too.

Negative attention indeed. Let's just say he's escalated, and I might have to call in his family to address his history.

Just an update on the drama, so Y requested a day to spend with family (since he's traveling) but it seems X keeps messaging shit to Y. A whole bunch of "how could you do this to me, I gave you so much, I was your friend, why would you do this to me" cos Y responded to the similar texts he had...

Thank you Galagirl, your input has been very much appreciated. X might think I'm not a good dating partner either but whatever, water off my back. I don't think his outburst with my mourning was over losing my attention actually, I think it would have been fine if Y didn't mention it or try to...

Thank you Magdlyn. Just to update. I received via texts from X that he "hopes I'm happy with the ending, that my paranoia, despite all the good intentions, still topples everything. That I drove both of them insane and he is quitting. That he deserves so much better, and we shouldn't...

Thank you for the response. I am holding off any further talks on this with Y until he returns and we can all sit down. I will tell X calmly that I no longer want to be a part of it. X says he wants to try but it's been on his terms so... I'm out.

Thank you for the reply. I am trying to distance myself as much as I can from X but Y has told X that the only way for it to work is if X and I can get along. I do not want to force feelings which aren't there, as ultimately I feel it would all unravel. Y and I do not live together, as his...

@Galagirl You have hit the nail right on the head. Indeed I am not denying them the chance to see each other. But for my own sanity, I would need to distance from them both. @HappilyFallenAngel I don't know, we might but if I do leave Y I will probably go through a period of singlehood...

Hello Magdlyn, and thank you for the response as well as welcoming me to the board. I will read through the post you had linked. And I understand that no one can love both equally (learnt that all too well from our previous attempt at the triad) and that's why going into this one, we had...

Noted Galagirl. Well Y is away on a holiday with his family. We are supposed to meet to talk when he gets back. I love your stance on using "That's nice" although I'm not sure if it's for the right reasons as I have a feeling it will drive X up the wall.

Thank you Galagirl That was my thought all along. X still tells Y that he doesn't want to break us up, yet is continually trying to get his attention. Y tells me that he doesn't want to give us up either but he wants X as well and says he wants to work something out. It's like two brick walls...

I thought I could remain friends with X, but he seems too adept at playing the victim, manipulating emotions, and that's why I personally do not want to get more emotionally involved with X. And as Y's partner I would like to shield him from that but I know that that's his choice ultimately.

Apologies for the long post. But I'm at my wits end I don't know what to do to keep my partner and myself happy. Background: I am a gay man in my early 30s and I've been with my partner of 9 years before we decided to enter this triad. We've attempted one triad previously but the person who...