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I have a husband & a boyfriend. I might advise them if I've been intimate with the other on a given day but details are not shared. To me sharing that info is a bit skeezy. It's private to each relationship as the intimacy is different with each. Everyone is in the know & consents to the...

No actually it doesn't. Many gay/trans folks choose to remain closeted for the same reason I have so I wouldn't refer to either as ridiculous. We're talking about love/sexuality here. Anything different from the general "norm" is going to be judged. Everyone being "out" in the LGBT community is...

Being 100% out may never be an option for CB & I. While some family members may know others, like his children, will likely never know the true nature of our relationship. As for now, there has not been cause for me to meet them but it's likely in the future. There again, I would have to hide...

I'm frustrated with being closeted about my boyfriend. He's an amazing person who has entered poly with me. I'm poly & he's always been monagamish. His ex & he had a DADT agreement when it came to sex with others. She had the option & never took it but he did at different times in their...

I cannot relate compketely but I've seen your prev posts regarding your partners & one not wanting more children while the other does, odd requests about your practices with the other, etc. I would not call tracking ovulation & condom use less than 100% of the time an effective birth cohtrol...

This sounds a bit like my scenario. Mine started as an open marriage (don't ask, don't tell.) To me meeting a swinger couple & taking the guy as my regular lover, discovering poly, a messy quad & an mfm v that ended badly on one side. Fast forward......my husband & I swing but separately. I...

I wasn't necessarily trying to Pigeon hole myself or anyone else. Just wondering if in a situation where all of the stars aligned there could be a poly connection wheras in any other circumstances it wouldn't exist. I don't feel like with anyone other than Surfer it would have happened the way...

See, I think that's what happened. We found ourselves flying blissfully around in a cloud of intense NRE & then the gravity of our lives brought us crashing down. Right now I don't know where I stand which is extremely difficult. Not sure if I'll ever know or if there will be a reconciliation of...

I've posted before that Surfer & I have had issues lately. I'm in a pretty crappy place right now where often I find myself run by my emotions. While Cowboy is exploring his sexuality with others I find myself not all that interested in sex. What I do know is I hate the way I'm feeling, I'm...

Surfer & I have had some struggles lately or should I say he's dealing with some conflict. We had a conversation that he had been avoiding. I wanted to let him know about my needs & basically put the ball in his court. He basically said that the conflict he's experiencing has led him to an...

I would definitely not come out at this time or at the very least not just come out & say "I'm poly." If he's already expressing feelings of inadequacy it's not going to help that situation. A little over a year ago my husband & I agreed to open our marriage. I found a lover. My intention was...

Pretty much anything is acceptable there if consented to but by "lifestyle" specifically I meant swingers. Some are into bdsm, some just nudists. Gay, straight, bi whatever.

Surfer can be just the sweetest man. We recently were away with Cowboy & Pixie. Cowboy left early because he had to return to work. Surfer & I were relaxing in a common area of a lifestyle friendly resort which we all frequent. Another guest stopped by to talk to Surfer & said "I met your wife...

Well, I'm just thinking.....how is she going to feel about him possibly being bi? You're a virgin so although you two may or may not have been some degree of intimate how will she react? My BF is heteroflexible. For a while I thought he might be bi but this is not a thing he's ever hidden. He is...

As has happened before I find myself feeling insecure about Surfer. He & Pixie are swingers as I've mentioned in previous posts. Cowboy & I are not. Over the past several months the relationships between the four of us have changed. We've seen each other at our best & worst and been together in...

I don't have much to add as others have covered most everything but I will say this, your BF is not handling this well. Yes there is an ignorant social stigma to genital herpes. Likely you have experienced some low feelings because of your diagnosis. I know I did when I was newly diagnosed. I...

Are you & your wife actually in an open/poly marriage? I'm asking because yes you will run across people who overstep boundaries. It sounds like your wife has been good at handling this situation. Was it disrespectful to you? Sure. Does it help you to be angry or hold on to negative feelings...

Well 2016 has been a tough year. Surfer got through his medical procedures & after some minor complications is almost back to normal. Pixie had major surgery a couple of weeks ago & will be healing for a while. I just got a bout of crazy allergies under control. Cowboy & I have been with them...

Triguy I fell into poly. Opened my marriage met a swinger & his wife, hooked up for what everyone thought would be casual fun. One year later & it's so much more. I have the love of 3 now although not romantically with Pixie as we're both straight. Surfer & I were certainly not seeking...

I'm not sure on the probability but it can happen. I'll share a little here, Cowboy (husband) & I both have hsv2. I have hsv1 as do Surfer & Pixie (BF & his wife). Cowboy tests negative for hsv1 & we've been together 18 years. Cowboy & I both take daily meds for suppression. All of us use...