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Thirdvana: that blissful feeling that unicorn hunters get when their unicorn finally comes to roost. The feeling of being cared about exponentially, and in that particular "different way" that's hard to describe if you haven't actually experienced it, that is shared among all members. Of course...

Ain't THAT the truth, Derby! I'm curious about this anthropologist thread, though.. if anyone finds it, can they pm me with it? I don't seem to be able to locate it, but I've only had a half of a coffee so far. EvRyNY, don't be discouraged, please. The search IS still worth it. Tala and I...

The simplest thing you will need.. is patience. LOTS of patience. The dynamic you're looking for is very common. There's a reason those women who fit the description you're seeking are called Unicorns.. they're not all that common. (ok, maybe women with the right mindset aren't "uncommon", but...

My wife has been poly for years, just never found the relationship that works with it until... she explained poly. It made sense to why I hadn't been terribly happy in previous relationships. Now me.. male/poly.

-To visit Jamaica. the Cayman Islands, and scuba dive in both places. -To learn to scuba dive (maybe this should have been first?) -To take my wife on a totally spoiling, no holds barred, money's no object all-inclusive vacation for at least 2 weeks where we're not even allowed to acknowledge...

Yes. and it does work.. not only did OKC reunite me, after 13 years, with the woman that is now my wife, it's provided us with some great friends, some lovers, and a new opportunity with folks we're meeting this weekend. We're there as "kinksters"... 3 years with a couple profile on a site that...

Some of the things I have learned that have changed my life the most are things about myself. Since getting back together with Tala, and for the first time trying out living in an open, honest, truthful, trusting, and accepting environment, I've discovered just how much of myself I was hiding...

With regards to the original question, apparently, OKC does occasionally yield results. We're meeting with a like-minded couple this weekend, because the woman and I have been talking, and there might be something there. (Our spouses aren't interested in each other at this point. Tala only dates...

Hmm.. usually I dislike labels, but in the spirit of fun... (and in no real order) Husband Polyamorous Dominant Heteroflexible Pro-Gay (rights, etc) Manager Owner Lesbian in a man's body (not my words, but rather my wife's) O-su-su (sp?) (man who prefers the company of lesbians) bassist singer...

Let me just levy my vote on the side of those who say DADT is not poly, and not just. And on the side of those who say that your lady needs to realize that she's had her cake and been eating it too for quite some time.. she's got to understand that you may have outside interests and, as long as...

We can be found on FL too And OKC as well. As a matter of fact, OKC led to the meeting we're having with another couple Saturday. They sound like a lot of fun... *fingers crossed*

Some define brat that way, or some call it "SAM," smartass masochist. Some say that there are "degrees of brattiness," up to and including downright disobedience. However, I say that once they cross the line from "fun-loving, playful or entertaining high-spiritedness" (aimed at getting them...

Absolutely, be cautious. If G is willing to be "the other" without your knowledge, then there's no respect for you there, and it's not likely that there will be.. that being said, your partner is showing you no particularly great amount of respect by allowing G to believe that she's cheating on...

If you had previously made plans for that evening, and she's now made plans for that same day in the day time, it's up to her to manage to meet both obligations. I don't think it's so much a matter of her guaranteeing in advance that she's going to make your date, but instead one of you...

Sounds like you have no kids.. so why sit at home? Take this time to visit with friends, go to a movie that he wouldn't like, something like that? Plan to fill the time, and it will help keep it from feeling empty. Kudos to you, too, for making the effort and allowing him to be himself.. it's...

Ahh, SC, you have a point, allow me to alter that to have the meaning of "compromising your ideals" or "compromising your happiness", rather than "arriving at a compromise". I was (in the past) the one who adjusted to meet the needs of the other, without requiring or requesting that the other...

If someone wants you to do something they're not willing to do themselves, then it's certainly not a reasonable request. I know personally how this feels... I used to do all of the compromising in my past relationships. It always led to resentment and hard feelings, and was never productive in...

I do agree.. part of recovering is seeing the issue, dealing with it, and making it become a NON issue. Some have an easier time, some have a harder time, but success can come to anyone who truly strives for it. It took a long time for me to recognize what was happening, but I'm happy to say...

They didn't realize the impact, or they didn't recognize the abuse? Even if they didn't recognize the abuse, there was most certainly some kind of impact.. when someone puts a light on it, you say "oh, gawd, is THAT why I feel that way/do that/ avoid that" etc.. But it's there, realized or...