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Thanks SNeacail. I will PM you shortly.

So it sounds as if you and your hubby were able to make some progress and that counseling worked for you. I am happy for you. I must ask though - since you are on a poly forum, I assume you are a poly. Is your husband? How are you making this part of your relationship work? I also assume he's...

The Church is very rich. What else would you expect when 6 million members are expected to tithe 10% of their income; that's usually interpreted as gross income BTW. Of course, many of the church hierarchy are rich. As an aside, and few people know this outside Salt Lake City, but the church is...

Mormonism is a very tight community. They have a built-in network that surrounds its members. There are a lot of advantages with that. But a major disadvantage is that they become myopic in their views. They really have little understanding of outside worldviews (like Paganism) or even of other...

My wife doesn't believe in counselors. She thinks we can just work it out ourselves. That hasn't worked out too well. Funny, she has a bachelor's degree in psychology too. How's that for a rationalizing?! She has a hard time opening up with her feelings. After all the counselors we've gone to...

My wife and I have gone to marriage counseling MANY times. We went to counseling on and off over a period of years before our separation, and with several counselors. I had to drag her kicking and screaming each time. We haven't gone since the separation b/c it takes so much energy and I'm worn...

I can relate with the whole passive/aggressive communication pattern. I deal with that too and it gets old. I am glad things are so much better for you. I often wonder if I could experience some of the same. I guess I have nagging doubts that the grass will be greener on the other side. For...

Spiritual sex is...well...spiritual. It is more than just orgasm. It is a connection and buildup and infusing of energy with your partner. It is becoming one psychically as well as physically. I have only experienced it a few times and quite by accident (the stars were aligned I guess), but when...

Spiritual sex is...well...spiritual. It is more than just orgasm. It is a connection and buildup and infusing of energy with your partner. It is becoming one psychically as well as physically. I have only experienced it a few times and quite by accident (the stars were aligned I guess), but when...

My wife and I also have different spiritual beliefs and that does make things much harder. I am also naturally poly too. I have suppressed mine too. I have tried to talk about it with her several times, but she already told me if I wanted to be with someone else that we might as well get...

Thank you for the advice. Actually, paganism is very new to me and I am still learning about it. My only exposure is the few friends I have in it and a book I am reading by Joyce Higginbotham. I appreciate the links you also provided. I was not aware that The Great Rite, or other rituals in...

I am not a Pagan (at least not yet) but I am very interested. I have also known for some time that I am poly. My wife is not poly and is very much against it. I am not in a continuous poly relationship b/c of this. I am also a nudist. In my Pagan studies, I have come across terms like "skyclad"...

Socializing is one of my big questions. So what should I expect at a poly event? Is it one big chat? Are there speakers? What? I am sure they are all different or perhaps have a different vibe. I keep imagining it is like an AA meeting for recovering mono's (LOL) - I have never been an alcoholic...

Thanks for the welcome. Interesting hearing your story nycindie. I am in the middle of a divorce but have decided this is the way I need to go for the future. I understand the feeling lonely part and needing validation. I go up and down with that too but it has got better over time. I want to...

Thanks for the advice on some of your early-on experiences with local groups and dating sites. Just wondering...did you say you were poly on the dating site? If so, do most people know what it is or did they just ask a lot of questions. Good advice not to be too rigid in what I want to begin...

Thanks RP. I will look in the events section for groups in my area. Regarding whether I know if I am poly or not - I seem to gravitate to lots of different women my whole life. They all have had something to offer and I loved them for that. I also want to give to many different people. I came...

I have been a jumble of thoughts for weeks now. I lurked on this forum for many weeks off-and-on over the last year before finally joining. I have come to realize that I think I am poly and now I don't know what to do. I am a fish out of water trying to navigate something where I don't know...

Thank you for commenting Carma. Funny...I really thought I would like swinging. I like the limited few people I met but I there was something about having sex with just anyone that seemed a little impersonal. I am not knocking it though. For many people it works. Yeah...strange how that...

Well...50 people viewed my post but nobody commented. Did I say something wrong or did my deodorant stop working?

Hi all: A little about me first before I describe my situation... I am a 52 year-old male. I have been married 26 years. I was in a very controlling religion (Mormon) for almost 30 years. About 5 years ago I started questioning things and that was the beginning of my exodus away from organized...