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I wouldn't say we operate on the veto system. Neither of us would step in and interfere with each other's relationships. It's more that neither of us wants to be in a situation where our loves clash in a way that they can't get along or want nothing to do with each other. This "rule" is just the...

I know there are as many ways of doing poly as there are those to do it, but my wife and I have rules that we feel keeps things as not awkward (wow, does that word's spelling live up to its name) as possible. We are each allowed one trial date with each person. After that, the hopeful needs to...

What you're feeling sounds very normal. Jealousy is basically the feelings related to the fear of losing something you have to someone else. You don't feel jealousy in relation to your more established relationship, because it is much more secure simply by having existed longer. Your other...

The only way I can think that unfriending her will lose him other friends is if they unfriend him because of it. As to the other ex showing up, being someone's friend on Facebook really doesn't mean anything. While I'm not friends with any of my past girlfriends, I'm fairly abnormal in that I...

From what you have written it seems like Korre started a new romance with Amber, so he's likely deep in the throes of NRE and very exited about the new relationship. This is leading him to pay less attention to you than you're used to which hurts, and the fact that the communication between the...

Welcome to the forums.

Welcome to the world of poly, my wife and I came to poly in a fairly similar way as you. We started with swinging, went to a hotel party and figured out we wanted to at least get to know the people we jump into bed with, then we met a couple and became friends and realized that we didn't want...

Yeah, so is there a way you could pick up the building and everything and move to central Illinois? :)

He wronged you in a big way, and it irks me that he decided to use the poly card to justify it. Without openness, honesty, compassion and a great many things that he left out of the equation, it isn't poly. All of the suggestions so far have been spot on, you hold all the cards, you have all...

Oops, sorry about all the ambiguity, I'm used to places like Facebook and my brain didn't click that there's no picture of me to identify myself. P-town means Peoria Illinois, and yes I am male, sorry. I guess i could stand to be a little more detailed. I am male married to a woman. Her...

Congrats on your journey of self discovery, you aren't alone I'm sure. Many people, I'm sure have gone from one mono relationship to another feeling like something must be wrong with them because they haven't discovered what you have, that poly is a perfectly viable relationship style. Kudos...

One really good early tip would be to make sure that whatever expectations you have are made clear and that you know what their expectations in respect to you are. For example, my wife and I recently had a bit of a misunderstanding with her boyfriend because she neglected to tell him about a...

Hello, nice to meet you all, this isn't my first post (maybe it should have been) but I just recently discovered this site. A little about myself, I am barely under 30, ecstatically married to a wonderful woman, a free thinking, non churchy Christian who believes that God never intended for...

I too am a Christian, though not much of a church-going one. I feel that churches generally discourage people from finding their own answers in the Bible and dismiss any critical thought about interpretation. I also do not support the traditional polygamy model and practice a more gender-equal...

Interesting, that is one that I have not seen. I will have to give it a look.

For me, the first and biggest issue with people who have differing views about the Bible is that it is a heavily retranslated text between languages that are so different that large gaps of meaning exist in the wording. Most current translations of the Bible (in English) are built from earlier...