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Let it go It would appear to me that you have answered your own question, and need some help with the actual letting go rather than resolving a dilemna. He made a choice, then you did. and you stand by your choice throughout your post... there is no question to be answered - simply moving on...

Moving forward... a step or two :D Been a while since I've been actively reading, let alone posting in here... It's been a struggle and I took a much needed break from the forum and just let myself try to settle... Nothing has changed in the way I feel, I feel just as strongly for WW and for...

Hormonal contraception isn't the greatest either. Personally, I am not only resistant but highly reactive. Depending on the dosage, I can go from (high dosage) almost manic depressive, to (low dosage) bleeding out for 18 days and a trip to hospital via ambulance, along with having to be put on a...

Female, newly Poly, mildly bi-curious hetero, in ldr and engaged with male mono (WW) pining for male mono (T) :p

You sir, are awesome.... as are RC and Charlie.... amazingly awesome people the three of you :D

Half-formed thought here… some of WW’s thing about OPP may have to do with me doing something he thinks should be reserved exclusively for doing with him?? i.e we also plan on writing books together – I am fairly certain that if I were to devote time each week to doing that with someone else as...

If you really feel the need to - you can do it by using the 'featured people' option in your friends lists... uncheck the relationship status thingy and then add it how you like in the featured people bit. using this method - you could name your 'lists' whatever status you give whichever...

my completely unknowledgable two cents on prairie voles they live in family groupings don't they? they don't wander off by themselves and join new groups - or do they? either they live in 'family' groupings and therefore must have some sort of lasting attachment..

For me it was an epiphany moment when i first read about it... since then it has been a series of heartwrenching forays into my own soul... and blissfully peaceful acceptances, followed by surges of glorious growth... and back into the heartwrenching forays (bit of a circle but the journey is so...

slightly waffled response :p That’s the thing... the whole sex issue IS off the table for now... the problem for WW appears to be the real likelihood that it would come up. I am a physical touch person... being physically intimate with someone is the deepest level of how I can express myself to...

Was just about to turn in for the night when I realised I hadn't shared something that is important to the whole acceptance process... during our very long talk today/yesterday... it came out that WW is in 'One Penis Policy' mode... he stated unequivocally that he would be okay with me having a...

If it really is a phase and you push your hubby into it... that will damage your relationship. If its real, it will last, love doesn't die overnight... and if you are poly, then likely there will be others. Give your hubby time to come to grips with everything going on for you... do the work...

Thanks Carma :D I've been reading your journey with interest ... everything we each experience in this process is so useful to everyone else :) at the very least so we know we aren't alone...

Yes, a little hypocritical... If it is okay for you to have your physical needs met outside your relationship, then it should be okay for her. To set boundaries on her when you don't abide by them yourself is damaging to the relationship. The fact she has emotions involved, sure, that makes it...

My suspicious little mind was contemplating this thought also.

Major rant>>>> Soooo..... WW has outed me to a work colleague/friend of his... he has been talking to this friend of his about the situation for a little while now, getting support and talking things through... but yesterday... he used the word 'poly'... His friend essentially flew off the...

Welcome :D

To use labels, I have been reading it that currently, Sundance and Butch are both primaries to Carma, though Butch has a slightly 'looser' connection. I read that statement: to say that Butch will one day wish to find a 'traditional' marriage partner and family, but not exclude Carma and...

Maybe leave the label aside for now? not question whether you are primary or not and ask her to drop the label too? Focus instead on the quality of your relationship and how you feel while together... while apart it is your part of things to trust her and work on your own issues...

I find it an intriguing question too, and looking at it from the energy exchange angle as Mono has... very disturbing yes... that said... I don't have a problem with it myself, just a yes with some people and there relative closeness as well as physical proximity to me plays a huge part in the...