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Vicki - Thanks for responding. I have been sitting with my feelings and trying to determine what will help me to feel better and more secure, which is why I wrote my post today. I want to feel special and that I matter, something that says "this is ours and ours alone," something that helps me...

Thank you Evie. You're right, I wish there was some simple answer, but I do know that there isn't. And I do know that I can be the only one to handle my internal feelings. I've read through most of those links from Kevin, perhaps I should read them again and again. I've been doing a lot of...

My boyfriend has been spending more time lately with his other partner, which I've been very encouraging of as I can tell its helping him to feel settled and I know she is feeling more fulfilled as well. That makes me happy. She and I are also planning a get together so that she and I can get to...

Thank you. I'm very happy that the conversation went as it did. It felt good to be listened to, have him really take in what I was saying, and respond with honesty both with regards to the facts of what's outside of us and with what is in his heart. Of course I plan on being cautious, with...

Absolutely agreed. What we plan on sharing are things like "Jess is coming out on Saturday and will be spending the night." Its actually info I just got. Also sharing things like "hey I've been talking to this cool person and we will be going on a date." Little things to ease minds like that...

Thank you. We are both going to get tested but I'm not sure if our schedules will allow us to go together. I did request that he used protection with her and he agreed that is the best choice for everyone. It was actually John that struggled with jealousy issues. Sorry for not making that...

It was hard, but our talk went extremely well last night. I put it all out there. My feelings of jealousy, insecurity, and pain. How I felt betrayed by the information he withheld. The discomfort I've been feeling. The things I need moving forward to keep this working as well as it has felt it...

Mags, In your opinion can John and I move through this? Maybe he didn't see it as "cheating"? I do love him, but I feel blindsided. Just over 5 hours to go until I'll be seeing him. I'm no longer sure what I'm going to say.

Thank you. I've been running it through my head over and over what I will say and how I will begin speaking. He already knows about the vulnerability I've been feeling since saying I love you, and he's been supportive of that. He knows about my past shitty relationships and connections with...

I'm meeting up with John tomorrow after work so in preparation I've been writing in my journal, trying to organize my thoughts as best as I can. Describing my emotions to myself, trying to filter through jealousy to find the source. Getting overly emotional on my own so I don't mess it up...

I'm hopeful too, extremely so. I don't really have any fears of it not going well in any sense, other than a panic attack rendering me mute. I've also been talking with my best friend about it today which has been helpful

Thanks Kevin. I am waiting to hear back from him about seeing each other either Tuesday or Wednesday. He said he's willing to talk about everything which is good. I'm also working on journaling so get some things written down with clarity so I'm not just emotionally exploding with no plan of...

I talked to John last night about the things that have been on my mind. He was open and receptive to the conversation which I am very thankful for. I let him know about some of my struggles, how my anxiety has been affected and what I've been feeling. I asked to have things more on the table to...

Well my dear friends I chickened out and didn't share my thoughts. I wanted to, clearly I did, but we had limited time together due to us both having to work this morning and there were other things to talk about and focus on since John is having a lot of stress at work. I didn't want to add to...

You're absolutely right, it's not a casual relationship. It's a healthy, loving bond that we share. It's the healthiest relationship I've had in a really really long time and so because of that, and because of how this is a new journey for me, I'm scared of screwing it up. I have to remember...

That is wonderful and I'm going to say almost exactly that when we have our date tomorrow. Thank you! Those are the words I've been struggling to find.

Hi Jane, Thanks for the reply. When your poly journey first started did you have anxiety? If so, how did you overcome it? I'm struggling with it, and again it's not because I don't want this kind of life. I think it has to do with feeling vulnerable with my love for John. I'm trying to break...

Hi Kevin, Thank you for your reply and for the links with helpful information. I do have a fear of abandonment that stems from previous romantic and platonic relationships in which I was deemed to be too much to handle due to my mental health. I have bipolar II disorder so I often struggle...

Hi all! I'm 31F and fairly new to polyamory and have been finding that my situation is somewhat unique as a newbie than others due to the fact that my boyfriend and I entered in to our relationship together as two relatively single people who have polyamorous intentions. I say this is unique...