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I wanted to thank you folks for your continued support and advice. Last week my wife and I had a conversation. It lasted 5 hours. What I want to ask you, in summary, is whether I should even be considering an open marriage/hierarchical poly at this point. The conversation began with my telling...

Believe me, I have no desire to have a final round of sex, nor any expectations. This was in response to Galagirl’s suggestion regarding why my wife might want it, which I can understand. If she does want it so badly, I wish I could give it to her (orally). However, I recognize that this would...

“I, too, am people.” I like that as a slogan!

Magdlyn, I love all of this terminology. Carpetbagging! The idea of white-knighting was important to me in realizing what I was doing (not that I'm entirely over that behaviour). One of my friends did suggest that there is some emotional abuse going on here. I don't believe it's intentional...

Thank you all so much for your kind, no-nonsense advice. I figured there must have been a glitch in the moderation. No worries. I don't feel abandoned, Magdlyn, I feel grateful to you. I have had suicidal thoughts before, but I don't believe I'll ever hate myself enough (or have enough courage)...

Thank you so much for your advice. I teared up especially after reading confused88's reply. It touched upon my situation so well, and I am so glad to hear that there is (hopefully) light at the end of the tunnel for people like me and confused88's partner. In terms of living apart, at least...

Some months ago I posted about my attempts to come to terms with my wife about my polyamorousness. Many of you warned me away from trying to make a mono/poly marriage work. But I wanted to try as hard as I could. As I've come to realize that I am poly, I have tried never to make my wife feel...

I was able to have an open conversation with my wife over the weekend. I kept my promise to help her try for a child one more time, making it clear to her that she should not believe that having children would solve anything, and that I was doing it in part because I didn't want her to feel as...

I'm very grateful to you all for your advice, and for the links to further readings on mono/poly relationships. I hope to learn from it as I think this dilemma through. Certainly you're all correct that we shouldn't bring children into such a situation. To be clear, it isn't yet time for...

Thanks so much to everyone who has responded so far. I feel that you folks have so much collective wisdom from your experiences. Special thanks to kdt26417, whose post made me want to cry. I very often think the very things that Kevin has mentioned. We only have so much time in this life, and I...

I have been married monogamously to a wonderful woman for a decade. She has a chronic illness that often puts her in a lot of pain, and we haven't been able to have children. One day, while out for a nice dinner, we started talking about my sexuality and my desire to join a local group for queer...