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No, we have never tried swinging and threesomes. We have just tried finding a good couple to do it with. (Sorry about the clumsy way that sentence was written. I was pretty drunk when I wrote it.) As a matter of fact, neither one of us has had any previous sexual partners before our marriage...

UPDATE on the situation: Yesterday, my wife went to meet some random guy who invited her to go and take a walk. It was solely for the purpose of hanging out and meeting a new person, no sexual intentions whatsoever, and they were just chatting. Anyway, long story short, when she came home she...

I don't think Marcus Aurelius, as a one of the most prominent stoic philosophers could be of any use here, in my situation. Actually, if I'd done his way... 🤣 Story goes like this: "Faustina was so infatuated with the particular gladiator that she actually fell ill. She admitted the affair to...

That makes more sense. I try to apply some stoicism sometimes in my life, and it usually goes well. When things go well, I am disciplined, exercise, do the choirs, etc. But when shit goes down the rough path, let's say like, when my father died, or now, with this open-relationship thing, the...

Btw, here's an off-topic question for you all: how would you describe my English language skills, written ones, of course? As for me, I feel very confident using English, and I am almost always able to articulate my thoughts and form sentences and comments.

I didn't say it was literally the same as depression. It was just to illustrate my point. I was more referring to the fact that all mental illnesses, states of mind, complexes, phobias, etc. are per se irrational. They come from the irrational and can't be beaten that easily by simple rational...

Well, from the purely rational point of view, you all have a valid point, the size is not everything. Communication with a partner is important, mastering the oral game is a must, we can use hands and toys, etc. It is rational, but the male complexes when it comes to dick size (and all the other...

Evie said: "You're possibly even finding it erotic to hear her plans? Are you thinking about how you will "reclaim" her when she is back home from her adventures? This is a very normal response if it is indeed what you are experiencing. Are you going to harness your jealousy and redirect the...

I told her not to tell me a thing, except when she is ready to go into action. You have a point, I don't need to know, and I shouldn't know the details.

Thank you all for your responses and all the support you gave me! You all seem like a really nice and decent people who would be a good friends. I think I've made up my mind. I will endure the pain and jealousy and all the other stuff once or twice. I'll let her have her fun. (She is great...

Btw, what does it mean to have a "Hephaestus-vibe"? I know who Hephaestus is in Greek mythology, but I'm kinda missing the meaning of the term.

Thank you for your response and compassion. Now to add to my anxiety even more, I have just learnt a new word, "size queen." Good lord, in my scary, distorted and hyper-imagination, she is going to become a size queen. She clearly is looking for sizes bigger than mine! I'm a mess again! Going...

I kinda see the female perspective of a dating app because, a long long time ago, I was (unsuccessfully) trying to meet a nice guy using Grindr, and yes, it's full of freaks (mental freaks). So, women, as well as bi guys, really have to be selective and methodical in order to find a suitable...

A little update about the situation. First of all, I am sober now, zero hangover. I'm gonna try to make myself hit the pool or a weight room this afternoon, after my shift is done! Second, she found a guy who matches all of her criteria, and she is 99% sure he's the guy she is gonna do the...

Well, as I mentioned, currently no one is getting anything. She just gets more matches. As for me, well, I have uninstalled the dating apps and stopped trying, at the moment. It's not so much the fact that I can't get sex. I mean, with guys and Grindr it's way easier than with women. It's just...

This "First aid" article really is of some aid. Thanks a lot! EDIT: It is helpful, but so is red wine, still. 🙂

Actually, she was very considerate of what information she was going to share. It was me who asked, and I'd say this was a mistake, because it just keeps triggering my anxiety all over again. I ask her "How's it going?" and she is like, "Fucking great-- I found this awesome dude," and I just...

Btw, thank you all for your feedback. My plan generally goes something like this: I'm gonna let it all happen. She can have her one-night stand with whomever she picks. Then I'm gonna try and find a guy to finally "taste man flesh" (LOTR reference 🙂). Than I'll see, if that is too much for me to...

Nah, for her, it is strictly sexual. She comes from a messed-up family and is a bit emotionally unavailable, so variety in sex is all she is looking for. She just wants to try it with other people too, guys mostly, because she is, as I've mentioned, bi-curious. On the other hand, I am all into...

Yes, I do realise the distinction when it comes to terms. (I have a Bachelor's Degree in Journalism.) It's just that I found this forum first and decided to talk it all out. Plus, somehow the situation I am in, to me, looks more similar to poly issues than classic swinging issues. When it comes...