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Of course. I love her and she is in a terrible place. My whole focus right now is on supporting her (all the focus that is left after caring for the kids, household, work). Cheers.

Thank you. I will definitely stop writing about her here, especially in this detailed way. All of you and your perspectives have been really helpful and are much appreciated. I need to be careful to not over-enthuse because of this positive experience.

Well, it seems he is not only angry with me and blaming me, but mostly at her for going along, ignoring his needs, etc. It seems he is furious to the point where she feels he despises her. I've never actually seen a cycle of love-bombing, devaluation and discard. I know that I only have part of...

I would very much like to give hearts instead of likes. You're great, thank you.

This is turning into a kind of live-feed. Anyway, yes, that is what I feel. I don't know what part of that is me being a divorce-kid or (very) late-diagnosed severe ADHD, but whenever something bad happens where I played a part in it, my first and most severe reaction is the feeling that once...

He broke up. So instead of jealousy and hurt I now have to deal with guilt, fear and self-doubt. Still, you helped a lot. I should have come here earlier.

Hi Franko, I’m absolutely no pro but here are my 2 cents: Ask yourself if you can accept her falling in love with that other woman. I don’t think it’s possible for her to guarantee she won’t. And if it’s going to happen, there will be a lot of pain, if you can’t constructively deal with it. As...

We already have family therapy and used the last two sessions to get some clarity. I also booked a first session with a couples counselor whose website claims he has a lot of experience with non-monogamous situations. Bloody hell, those are expensive. We found a few things we need to do...

Yes and no. Mostly safer sex. One or two things for emotional reasons. Those aren’t even final restrictions, but more on the line of I need to learn to let go and say yes, a “not yet but probably soon," not a “no." Sexual restrictions were not yet a problem for either of us and I don’t see any...

Thank you, all of you. You have helped me a lot. I was hoping for exactly that by coming here and you absolutely did not disappoint. Sending you all a lot of gratitude and love.

That is bleaker than I hoped for. Thank you for your honest opinions. Does anyone have different perspective or something to add? For honesty's sake I want to add that I misread my calendar. She was at home 7 of 18 days and they had four not five dates.

Hi, I am in a situation where I'm having difficulties assessing my situation and I thought maybe a bunch of strangers from the internet with dubious credentials might be the right crowd to give me some feedback. Context: I'm married. We have been together for nearly 20 years now. We have three...