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Everybody's right, both of them are not worth salvaging. He was drunk and it didn't mean anything? Apparently this is how much your feelings mean to this guy. He chose to spend time with her. He chose to drink around her. He chose to keep drinking around her, past the point of being in control...

Good read, solid words, excellent pacing 10/10 first post. So, both you and Alexis are learning how to love and be in a relationship with someone who is poly. That's a lot to figure out all at once, and as you'll see from any of the veterans of this site, an enormous paradigm shift for the...

As someone who had an affair because I was not happy, got caught, tried to make it work: your relationship as you know it is over. It is gone and grieving is appropriate. Your marriage could have just up and ended there, but you chose to do hard things and see if you can't make something new...

She was not honest. Maybe just with her husband. Maybe with everyone, including herself. He was too willing to throw you under the bus. After how deeply he let you believe you mattered in their space, that willingness does not go away because he cried. You'll go under again the next time things...

Have you dated many married women, @XTremeMeow? You described some married women you've met, but I'm curious if your first-hand experience has lined up with your perceptions. I've been married and am currently dating a married woman, so my experience is limited, but I found your reasons for...

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Always email your resume at 11.11, just in case.

My understanding of what it means to be polyamorous is much more a personal experience than it is a definition of a relationship structure. My divorce (heh) from traditional marriage and monogamy had everything to do with how I didn't feel like I fit within such rigid structures. Up until very...

The holidays go, whether we like it or not! I am doing my part to make them merry and bright. @YesThisIsDog242, our instincts align, it seems. Most of my internal explanations for his behavior do a much better job of passing Occam's Razor than anything he's specifically said about his own...

Mostly the same. My relationship with my girlfriend is solid, but her husband is not comfortable being around me, so I can’t spend time at theirs unless he has other plans that take him out of the house, which wouldn't be as big of a deal, except that I am not living in my own space atm, so we...

Mags is mad and someone got called a hag, what'd I miss?!

For catharsis, here are some preemptive thoughts: When S and i began dating, it was with the explicit understanding that her husband was not a prerequisite in any form. During the whole above weekish period, I maintained contact with S and did my best to have healthy boundaries while also being...

My girlfriend shall be S, her husband K. We have a group message, created by K and named after S. In it, K was speaking about his boredom-induced fiddling around with the homebrew DnD setting i had been slowly introducing to the two of them, along with a few others. He was rambling a bit, as he...

Gods, preach. My kids and myself is plenty, I don’t have much left

Evie was right, it was entirely literal. Car keys sitting next to the steak in the refrigerator, no memory of leaving them there. I love pregnancy stories.

Ok, but answer some more questions! Are you poly? Do you require his partners to be sexually intimate with you? I want detaaaaaails

Heheh, get ready to be here often. I remember when my ex was pregnant her feeling “fat” and me finding her unbelievably attractive and not having an outlet because she didn’t feel that way. If y’all can just bone a lot, hopefully that will help with her feeling like she’s still hot, still a...

Fine, but someone has to admit that Fart Tart was pretty funny *pout* I don’t think this is it, but it’s crossing an “i”: Butt Slut (me)

This is, unfortunately, a “you problem” in terms of polyamory. Insecurity is a huge deal, but someone else being different than you (and your partner appreciating that fact) is kind of what being poly is all about. The good thing is that it is, as some kinder folk than me have pointed out...

Came in just in time for the update and to recommend up to 18 months* of mourning for the breakup before expecting much excitement about anything, let alone a new one. That said, if you consider yourself polyamorous and would like to continue to explore that on your own while your partner takes...