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Continued Is it reasonable for him to want to fight FOR your relationship with her. What’s that bring him ?? Or what’s that brought him up til now ? Is she being super supportive or maybe she doesn’t want the responsibility that comes with taking on the whole thing/ load ?? I can...

Hi Galaxy welcome to the forum 😉 In those 10-15 yrs has you husband had a steady gf / partner or has it always been him being part of a group situation with you ? Sound like he has more of a swinger mindset. Have all these thoughts and feeling been expressed to your husband ? Especially the...

Hi and welcome to the forum. I’m assuming you’re not married to the partner in question. Is anyone in this dynamic legally married? How many partners do each of you have currently and have had historically over the yrs? 1) It’s been several yrs since the incident. In the numerous discussions...

And you know this how ?

I think what the OP is referencing is when poly has run its course in those cases… where preference has won out. It’s called "shelf life." As many here have stated, every relationship has it. In fact, I think Gala introduced me to this concept. As explained, I think there might be some romance...

Is this a real thing that’s now in practice? I don’t get the “passing off“ part. It’s just a more involved farewell blowjob. Is there some expectation on who’s going to take the load at the end, or is a flip-for-it type thing? Is there a ceremonial structure to this?

Ok, so maybe break point was too strong… as is pathological. How about someone who doesn’t want to look like the bad person? I’ve heard from numerous people and therapist class that often people who’ve really made up their minds, perhaps yrs or months in front of having a confrontation, which...

You can read into this whatever emotion or narrative you want. However, there’s a good chance I know more about this situation from the numerous pm conversations I’ve had with him. And for the record, my divorce, although chaotic and complicated at the time, is without doubt one of the...

Wasn’t my intention to needle anyone. I was just wondering who was driving this effort. If she’s out filling out apartment applications, etc., etc., and lots of sketchy communication (lies by omission) is/was that a coordinated effort to push him to his break point? Without rereading all of...

We? You went together to pick up the paperwork? Whose idea was that? A) to forward think this is the direction things are going, AND B) to go together to pick up the paperwork?

In your first paragraph you layout the history and timeline as you piece together events leading up to your bombing are these assumptions based on fragments of conversations or you having a frank discussion on origins ? Do you know other than the gay fan fiction stuff if she did any research...

Have you even been married? Sometimes life and a life partnership are about more than the settled practicalities. It doesn’t sound like any of the “practicalities“ of the trip and the resulting conflict with Easter with her family were discussed prior to accepting the invitation. And...

How many people or families are in attendance at the parents for Easter or other holidays? Do they live close? Have there been any discussions on when or what to do with “coming out,“ so to speak, to her parents/family? Were you and the kids expected to show for dinner, with her being in...

Is it possible her mother/parents shit-canned her Canada 🇨🇦 trip because they didn't want awkwardness or the topic of conversation focused on the one person missing from the picture?

Looking at the timeline when you joined, was this sort of a triggering event in which you found yourself in fast-moving water-- more intrusion than you expected? To back up for a brief second, what historically is/are the routines or plans surrounding Easter or spring break? Was this...

Mom's naked in bathroom with her friend/boyfriend, and then jumps in the shower, and the assumption is nothing sexual happened behind closed doors, with water running to cover the noise? Not sure what the average shower habits or bathroom habits of people around children are, but I think...

This is the same person who said she wants to separate so she can move in with her new bf? There are some conflicting messages and feelings going on.

You’re saying after the NRE phase burns off, this sexual decoupling happens when it’s someone she wants to have an intimate emotional connection to. Is that correct? And at the same time, views/enjoys sex with people/friends on a more recreational level with no strings attached...

Forgive me if I’m getting this wrong, but it sounds like she definitely connects sex with romance in all new relationships, which is why she was giving you a heads-up on cutting you off during the NRE phase. She’s acknowledging that connection at least for that. I think evolutionary psychology...

My pleasure. 👍 I see someone helped you get that sorted. I see. Yes, very similar. How old is your child ? I meant there seems to be on her end a moving away from the primary couple-centric thinking. at least from a romantic sense. Maybe not from a day to day business sense. But from a...