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I've several female friends who have tried dating online, and they've run into exactly this sort of thing as the norm, rather than the exception. I keep trying to cheer them up, saying such men save them time by letting them know they are definitely not worth it. It's sad, but I think true...

Hairqueen, I'm sorry this is all happening to you. Please do not feel I'm being critical, as I'm not. I'm trying to help... I read something recently that noted the top three things that cause divorce. One of them is marrying before the age of 25. You can't fix that now, in the sense of...

Online dating sites can be a serious downer. My wife, and many women friends have run into all manner of...shall we say, less than savory types. One thing we've done that helps a bit is to add a request near the bottom of the profile, but not in the last paragraph. Something like, "Let me know...

Reversing the order of the quotes, but bear with me... It's NYC. There's a zillion places. But, it's not the place that matters here. Trying to find "a" guy is easy. Your wife will have no problems doing that. If what she wants is a torrid love affair that lasts a few weeks and burns out in...

Missmindful, There's excellent responses above, and I don't know that I can improve on the points they raise. I did want to address something that hasn't been fully addressed, that I can see. Dagferi's post was fantastic, and she's spot on. I wanted to expand on this a bit though, and I hope...

@unsureofthis; There's a lot of issues that have to be worked on. I can't imagine trying to be involved in a polyamorous relationship where trust and honesty were not basic precepts. It can be very hard in a situation like this. Your wife's new lover can be incredibly attractive (and I don't...

MrsG; challenges indeed :) I echo what has been said above. The communication part especially times a million; you're embarking on new territory here, and it is going to take time to learn even the basics. Be honest and open. I'd also like to add on a thought; have you met your husband's...

That's an excellent way of putting it!

As in our experience in swinging, we're reading threads posted by others regarding various circumstances and discussing it between each other. We think this does a lot to help evoke and clarify thoughts. Kinda like "Oh I would never do that!" and "Well, I think it could work if this were to be...

If it makes sense for a newbie to the forum to welcome another newbie to the forum, WELCOME! :) Being poly is an exciting adventure! Of course, there's lots to learn and understand. Most people in western society don't grow up understanding how to participate in a non-monogamous relationship...

Well, there are always different ways of seeing. I'm going to chalk up the bad bits in posts above to textual misunderstanding. Responding to some other elements... :) We do want help, but we don't (think) we need help with the bump. We've intentionally avoided laying out the circumstances...

Well, there you go. *sigh*

Thank you! :)

I'll restate what I said above; "As for my wife creating an account; she doesn't want to. As we've always done, she's always in the loop and prefers that I do the typing. " She will never log in here. My wife and I are both rather incensed at the approach here. We didn't come here to offend...

Hooboy. Ok, I didn't come here to be on the defensive. My wife and I are extremely close. We are "we", and she is a million times happy with that. It doesn't make her less of her own person. I don't control her, nor she me. We are completely honest and open with each other in every respect...

Velvet; We are complete rookies in polyamory (though not to non-monogamy), but wanted to hopefully add something of use to you... I know lying is hard. Not wanting to lie is very admirable. It is very, very difficult, stressful, and damaging to carry around a lie. I know there's perceived...

Hello! So here's our intro.... We are a very happily married couple of more than ten years. Prior to meeting my amazing wife, I was briefly in a poly-triad. It ended for a few reasons, none drama bearing, and it was all mature and handled well. At the time, I did quite a bit of reading with the...