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You are stuck in more than one stranger's head, Redpepper. I am happy to read this update and happy that you have found some peace. :)

Hello Darkling and welcome :) Your situation is one that is very viably successful. Lots of communication and willingness to move at the pace of whoever is experiencing the most discomfort is a plan that works well for my relationships. Lots of people here on this forum will give you good...

Just wanted to spray paint something witty on your page. "Something Witty"

Calm

Release

Mags, I didn't miss where she said anything. I am just giving an opinion and a perspective that is partially converse to yours. I wasn't picking on any single opinion or person who stated one, just adding my own.

Moving to another, more tolerant place or even dating in a separate place from where a person lives is one set of solutions. I'm sure they're workable and effective for many people. Nance and I live in a place full of religion, hypocrisy, and closed-minded, cookie-cutter, monogamy-minded people...

You want what you want. I don't think it's unreasonable. I don't think it's imaginary. I also believe it may be in the early stages of formation. The logical deduction about filtering to any specific situation is, of course, that the time it takes to find this situation may be a little more, or...

Chrysalis Redpepper, My name is Jim. I started reading this blog about a week ago, plus or minus. I started at the beginning and read it through to the current days. You and I emote in very similar ways, from what I've read in your posts. I process things like this very hard and take on...

From my experience, this is a cornerstone of success in poly relationships. If this condition cannot be met or reconciled through some means, hope of harmony is dim.

Hi Oly, Reading your story almost makes me shudder, being that I was recently in a situation similar to yours. The main difference was that I was led to believe that my partner had the intent to come clean with her primary. I won't ever put myself in a situation like that again. Period. If I...

hello I have to be honest, Muri. I loved reading this post. Just know that there are folks out here who are interested and supportive of your journey. It wont always be easy or perfect. It's ok to be hopeful and fantasize about the future, and you have acknowledged that you feel like you're way...

We are in complete agreement on this. For the record, I didn't have it anywhere in my mind that you had made a sexist statement. Shitty treatment is shitty treatment, regardless of how the chromosomes are arranged.

Or instead of all the decisions being made by the court, and waiting weeks or months or years for resolution.

hello hi Librarian, I'm Jim. I'm sorry for your wife's breakup :( I think you did a very good job of being supportive while working on yourself through it. :) Sounds like the work guy conducted himself in a cowardly way, which is always unfortunate. Yes, stick around. This forum has a lot...

*sigh* I remember it. I just want to emphasize the words, "mostly females." This is an accurate statement, but on occasion it happens to males, as well. The phrase I like to use is, "Everybody fucks a frog from time to time."

He's gauging your reaction, in order to formulate his own plans. Agreements like this occur frequently before the split. This is two people talking and hoping for the best outcome by making promises. IF THESE SENTIMENTS CHANGE (and they do quite frequently) would you not feel better having...

con·di·tion·ing (kn-dsh-nng) n. Psychology A process of behavior modification by which a subject comes to associate a desired behavior with a previously unrelated stimulus. I'd say you are very much in the conditioning phase at the moment. Expect to be sore and feel like quitting. As you...

Hello Kalea. I'm Jim. I'm glad that having a partner who you felt was untrustworthy didn't sour you on our lifestyle. :) Welcome to the forum!

hello! hello flowerandroses, I'm Jim.An open mind is essential to being successful at polyamory. It isn't always easy, but it can be very rewarding. My advice is to go slowly, learn all you can, and communicate well with your partner. Best of luck!