A poly practice in self awareness and inter relational disclosure

[Petal2themeddle]

I once heard at a polyamory workshop about an exercise in self-awareness that was essentially a document or a personal sorta journal entry which outlined core fears, personality traits, what makes you excited, insecure, sexual preferences and fantasies, etc. I remember there being a polyamorous podcaster, writer or blogger who was a proponent of this kind of document that recommended even giving it to prospective or new partners as a way of getting to know your boundaries and limitations etc. it's been a year or so since I set out to write this, however now I don't remember what it is called!

Does anybody remember or recall what I'm talking about?
if so, what was your experience with it? Did you find it beneficial for the relationship, for yourself, for your partners?
Lastly, who came up with the idea? Is it original to them or did they just popularize it?
Thanks so much!

 

[kdt26417]

Hello Petal2themeddle,

I am not familiar with the document you speak of, however I know that the book "Opening Up" has a number of questionnaires that, taken together, kind of fit that description. It's a good book.

Regards,
Kevin T.

 

[icesong]

I think you mean user manuals!

http://polyweekly.com/rtfm-the-user-manual/ is an example of one written by Cunning Minx; a lot of people just user her headings as a template. (She goes into this further elsewhere but I don't remember where off hand.)

A long series on writing them and why is here: https://loveuncommon.com/2017/04/13/user-manuals-an-introduction/

 

[Petal2themeddle]

User manual! Yes!

I kept wanting to say "contract", which definitely wasn't it haha.

Thanks for the info