Advice for once a week partner

[london]

It triggered my past issues of being abandoned as a child, notably when my single mother left me with a babysitter to date, or left me in the living room of her boyfriend's apartment to fuck him in the bedroom.

This is exactly why I don't bring any dates around my son. I know many people who feel similarly about how their parents dated. And many single parents do think things like that are fine. As you said, it's our issue, though.

 

[Norwegianpoly]

Making different kinds of money can be a real issue! I have felt it because I make many times more money then my bf. He would not even be able to visit me (withuot saving up for several months). I pay all of our expenses, and he resents that a bit, because he is independent (or tries to be) and because he does not think a woman should pay. But the fact remains that until he gets another job (in which case he needs to finish his part-time studies) this is the only way for us to stay together.

My deal with my husband is that I will cover all, or at least most, of the expenses related to my bf. This way, my husband can spend his money on himself, and have no reason to resent my BF for economic reasons. Actually, my husband and I have started living very economically as of late, which also benefits my husband, because he gets more money for fun stuff.

Ask her not to talk about money if it annoys you, or be patient that she has money worries that trouble her, but then allow for you to bring your money worries (or other worries) to the table, too.

If you should choose to use a babysitter when husband is away, she could chip in to cover the charges. Then you could date yourself, or just have a fun night out with the girls, go see a movie, etc. If you don't want to leave your kids with a sitter once a week, you can go out on a different day. That is only fair.

Her complaining about not having a husband and child could be envy. She might not want to move in with you because, to her mind, she can never have what you have.

Are you ready for her to have a child with him?
Are you willing to fight any legal issues in order to secure her safety and the safety of her future child?
Are you ready to split your nights in half?
Do you want your children to also come to her when they want something (even the cute things)?
Are there potential monetary benefits that could come from living in the same house?
Would she consider spending less money on trinkets in order to join your household?
Do you think she loves your husband, and is interested in getting to know you well enough to share even more of him with you?
Would you you ok with him in the future referring to her also as his "wife"?