Alone vent

[fauna]

You know what pisses me off, married people discussing "learning to be alone" to singles. You aren't alone, you have a partner in life. I no longer have a partner, I am alone. I can be alone, I know all about alone. And when push comes to shove, I miss having a partner, someone to share my life, and sometimes be alone from. But "learning to be alone" and the "gift" that is is bullshit, meant to drive single people crazy. While some choose to be alone, a great deal of us would rather have a partner, that the "gift" alone is. Stfu! Talk to me when you are as alone as I am.

Yes, I'm poly and have a "partner" who more of just a lover these days, I don't get to share my life with him. I know all about alone. I miss how it used to be.

Ok, done my vent.

 

[kdt26417]

Sorry you are suffering through bad circumstances, fauna. I like to have some alone time, but I don't think I'd want to live alone. So I understand where you're coming from on that point.

I hope things get better for you.
Sincerely,
Kevin T.

 

[OnceAndFuture]

I don't want to be "that guy" and say, yeah, I totally hear where you're coming from. The situation I had wasn't the same.

But when I was living away from my wife for 18 months I did get a real taste of what being alone not by choice was like. There's really a difference between "desired alone" and "enforced alone". I'd gotten info the habit of depending on her for easy social connection--being able to come home and just at least having someone to talk to. When that was taken away life became a lot harder. I really slid off the rails for a while.

One of the reasons I'm trying so hard to build my own social life now is because I've seen what "enforced alone" looks like and it's not pretty. I realize that even being a close friend is no guarantee you'll be one of their priorities, and definitely not a priority like one has with a partner. But it's better than the alternative.

 

[kdt26417]

Good points, OnceAndFuture.