CowleyRoad
New member
Well, I have been posting pretty extensively in the "New to Polyamory" forum, so I should probably introduce myself here.
I am a 36-year-old straight male living in a small American suburb. I landed here after stints in Canada, England, and Los Angeles, so this is my settling period, I suppose. I am married to a 34-year-old bi woman, Sky (out to me for about three years, just starting to come out to others).
Many of our friends say we are two halves of the same couple.
After a couple years of discussion, we decided to enter the swinging world, partly to expand her sexuality and partly to fulfill our fantasies of seeing each other with other people. Even though we'd talked about it for years, I think we secretly were poly-curious all along. Sky had talked about it, and although I hadn't admitted it to myself, I was curious too.
We met up with Brook (her) and Hunter (him) over a month ago and hit it off exceptionally well. It turned out that Brook was polyamorous, and although Hunter is not, he does enjoy the sexual part of it. But it is hard for him to come to terms with Brook's polyamory. At the moment, that is our biggest obstacle.
Brook is... well, an incredible woman. She is bisexual too, and has drawn out Sky's sexuality in an explosive way. Although they have done non-sexual activities, I kid Sky that "nothing Brook does is non-sexual."
Brook and I are both very literary people, and we've started to connect on that level. Since the four of us met up as swingers first, we are doing things backwards slightly. B and Sky and I are starting to feel things out as friends, and something a little more than friends. Although Brook is extremely extroverted, there is also a part of her that just wants to feel safe and warm, and she sees that in us and our relationship.
For Hunter's sake, we are trying to play up the friendly part of our relationship, and so we plan friendly get-togethers. I don't know where our relationship with him will be going. I don't want him left behind. Brook is kind of like the sun in their relationship and it leaves him in the shade. Part of that is his personality. Although he is a big guy, he is very shy and prefers to retreat into his own world. The other part is that his hobbies often take him away from the outside world a bit, maybe a bit too much. I fear that Brook will do what she wants and Hunter will feel unable to stop her.
So, right now that's where we stand, kind of making the transition from swinging partners to... not sure what you would call it. Enhanced friends with benefits, perhaps. A very hot triangle with an occasional fourth, perhaps. Beautiful, but scary, I think.
I am a 36-year-old straight male living in a small American suburb. I landed here after stints in Canada, England, and Los Angeles, so this is my settling period, I suppose. I am married to a 34-year-old bi woman, Sky (out to me for about three years, just starting to come out to others).
Many of our friends say we are two halves of the same couple.
After a couple years of discussion, we decided to enter the swinging world, partly to expand her sexuality and partly to fulfill our fantasies of seeing each other with other people. Even though we'd talked about it for years, I think we secretly were poly-curious all along. Sky had talked about it, and although I hadn't admitted it to myself, I was curious too.
We met up with Brook (her) and Hunter (him) over a month ago and hit it off exceptionally well. It turned out that Brook was polyamorous, and although Hunter is not, he does enjoy the sexual part of it. But it is hard for him to come to terms with Brook's polyamory. At the moment, that is our biggest obstacle.
Brook is... well, an incredible woman. She is bisexual too, and has drawn out Sky's sexuality in an explosive way. Although they have done non-sexual activities, I kid Sky that "nothing Brook does is non-sexual."
Brook and I are both very literary people, and we've started to connect on that level. Since the four of us met up as swingers first, we are doing things backwards slightly. B and Sky and I are starting to feel things out as friends, and something a little more than friends. Although Brook is extremely extroverted, there is also a part of her that just wants to feel safe and warm, and she sees that in us and our relationship.
For Hunter's sake, we are trying to play up the friendly part of our relationship, and so we plan friendly get-togethers. I don't know where our relationship with him will be going. I don't want him left behind. Brook is kind of like the sun in their relationship and it leaves him in the shade. Part of that is his personality. Although he is a big guy, he is very shy and prefers to retreat into his own world. The other part is that his hobbies often take him away from the outside world a bit, maybe a bit too much. I fear that Brook will do what she wants and Hunter will feel unable to stop her.
So, right now that's where we stand, kind of making the transition from swinging partners to... not sure what you would call it. Enhanced friends with benefits, perhaps. A very hot triangle with an occasional fourth, perhaps. Beautiful, but scary, I think.