Any suggestions?

[Divemedic270]

Hi everybody. Thanks upfront for the advice. I a poly Dom, and have 2 girls that are both poly as well. The dirt is a GF who is married (open and aware). We had been dating for 5 months when I took on a sub, now she is becoming primary. She is aware of my other relationship and I have not changed anything in any way with either of them. Now anytime I spend time with one the other gets feelings of anger and hurt from me being with the other. I love them both and my sub and I are discussing moving to a 24/7 D/s relationship. I think that they would benefit from meeting each other. Any ideas?

 

[london]

You could get them to meet but you could also handle this yourself. You could reassure your GF that you will maintain your relationship with her regardless of how entangled your relationship with your sub becomes. She may also want to be certain that you won't enter a monogamous arrangement.

You could discuss how your life may change in terms of where you live and who you live with and additional responsibilities such as kids. Be realistic about how that might affect how you see each other. You'll also need to be clear with your sub what you'll need to maintain your other relationship if you did decide to live together.

Reassure your sub that you are open to developing a primary style relationship with her, but one that doesn't inhibit your current relationship with your GF or any future partners. Show her that you can do both.