After ending a 15 year relationship (12 of which were spent in martial hell) I've spent that last year thinking long and hard about what I wanted and needed in a relationship and what a healthy happy relationship looked like. I've known I'm poly for years, now I'm embracing it.
There is a couple in my life that I'm very fond of. I'm closer to the husband than I am to the wife, but she and I are developing a better relationship in areas where we connect. It's a bit easier with him since we have a lot in common.
Anyways, I want to approach them about dating. As far as I know they have never had an open marriage, but they aren't close minded individuals. Both have also showed signs of attraction either in word, deed, or both. I believe if a move is to be made I would have to be the one to make it, because neither one is as forward and upfront as I am. But they do believe in and exercise open and honest communication.
In terms of ideal partners they both exhibit qualities, beyond attractiveness, that I'm looking for in a partner(s). And there is already an established respect and concern for each other's well-being that further nudges me to ask them if they would be interested in dating.
I don't know how to begin the conversation though, because I am to some degree afraid that it may freak them out when it's first mentioned since they know of poly families but haven't been put in the situation to be one themselves. I also figure nothing ventured nothing gained.
Any advice, words of encouragement, etc. to help me with approaching them and bringing up this possibility would be greatly appreciated.
There is a couple in my life that I'm very fond of. I'm closer to the husband than I am to the wife, but she and I are developing a better relationship in areas where we connect. It's a bit easier with him since we have a lot in common.
Anyways, I want to approach them about dating. As far as I know they have never had an open marriage, but they aren't close minded individuals. Both have also showed signs of attraction either in word, deed, or both. I believe if a move is to be made I would have to be the one to make it, because neither one is as forward and upfront as I am. But they do believe in and exercise open and honest communication.
In terms of ideal partners they both exhibit qualities, beyond attractiveness, that I'm looking for in a partner(s). And there is already an established respect and concern for each other's well-being that further nudges me to ask them if they would be interested in dating.
I don't know how to begin the conversation though, because I am to some degree afraid that it may freak them out when it's first mentioned since they know of poly families but haven't been put in the situation to be one themselves. I also figure nothing ventured nothing gained.
Any advice, words of encouragement, etc. to help me with approaching them and bringing up this possibility would be greatly appreciated.
