tihsjustworks
New member
Hi all,
I'm the female half of a young (30/35) couple that is gradually moving from an open/swinging situation to being more open to a poly relationship. I think like a lot of couples, we dipped our toes in looking specifically NOT to connect emotionally, but the more solid we've gotten in our relationship and connection with each other, the more another couple appeals to us.
Beyond the love that goes along with the poly lifestyle, one of the most appealing parts to us is the family aspect. We're looking primarily for another couple to form a quad and raise a family unit where the kids don't particularly differentiate between bio and non bio parents.
What concerns me are a few things:
1) We're about as normal as it comes - I know being slightly crunchy comes with this lifestyle sometimes and I admit I like my biodegradable k-cups and organic food as much as the next Bay Area yuppie, but we are also jocks, sports nuts, etc and have primarily found most other poly people we meet to be significantly more hippieish than we are
2) Warnings - They seem to be everywhere. Everyone we talk to starts our conversation on poly by telling us about their bad past experiences and warning us how much things will change, etc. Well, people told us the same thing about marriage and getting married quickly and 5 years later I have found that, with the right person, marriage is easy.
3) Bisexuality - Is anyone in/has anyone been in a 4-way bisexual quad that actually worked?
I'm the female half of a young (30/35) couple that is gradually moving from an open/swinging situation to being more open to a poly relationship. I think like a lot of couples, we dipped our toes in looking specifically NOT to connect emotionally, but the more solid we've gotten in our relationship and connection with each other, the more another couple appeals to us.
Beyond the love that goes along with the poly lifestyle, one of the most appealing parts to us is the family aspect. We're looking primarily for another couple to form a quad and raise a family unit where the kids don't particularly differentiate between bio and non bio parents.
What concerns me are a few things:
1) We're about as normal as it comes - I know being slightly crunchy comes with this lifestyle sometimes and I admit I like my biodegradable k-cups and organic food as much as the next Bay Area yuppie, but we are also jocks, sports nuts, etc and have primarily found most other poly people we meet to be significantly more hippieish than we are
2) Warnings - They seem to be everywhere. Everyone we talk to starts our conversation on poly by telling us about their bad past experiences and warning us how much things will change, etc. Well, people told us the same thing about marriage and getting married quickly and 5 years later I have found that, with the right person, marriage is easy.
3) Bisexuality - Is anyone in/has anyone been in a 4-way bisexual quad that actually worked?
