Breakup and emotions

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whereami

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Just after our 2 year anniversary, JN and I are taking a break from our relationship. I wont go into all of the details, but both of us are hoping this break is temporary.

Communication issues seem to be the root cause here. Either JN didnt express her concerns in a way that I could comprehend and understand, or I didnt properly communicate concerns that I have in a way that she could comprehend and understand. We both seemed to be missing the mark here.

We met last night and hand a fairly long talk, one of our longest talks I think, about our relationship. There is no blame being placed, and there are no negative emotions being directed at each other, but there is some hurting.

In short, let me express this to anyone reading this thread. Communicate, communicate, communicate with your significant other(s), no matter the subject. If your in a relationship with someone and they do something that bothers you, communicate it! Talk about it!

The emotional hurt/pain is not something that is worth going through by avoiding a simple conversation and just dealing with something that bothers you.

Thank you for reading
 
Hi whereami,
Sorry you're going through this difficult stage.

I think it's true that people are afraid to communicate sometimes. They don't want to rock the boat. Yet, if you don't communicate, the pressure can build and build until the pressure cooker explodes.

It is hard to communicate productively. It takes a lot of practice, and I don't think one lifetime is enough to master the art. I think the most important part of communication is good listening skills. Good listening involves so much more than just being quiet for a moment. It's much more complex than that. But in any case, one person can't listen unless the other person speaks.

I hope you and JN are able to get back together after a spell.
Sincerely,
Kevin T.
 
No problem; wishing you the best.
 
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